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I'm in high school and I'm ready to date again after my last relationship that ended about a year ago. There is this guy that I became interested in after talking to him. We had a class together and I thought he was beginning to like me back. After the trimester ended I was worried I wasn't going to see him, but he ended up being in my foreign language class. I said hi and he barely responded and he doesn't really talk to me. It's still the beginning of the trimester but I was wondering was I reading his signals wrong? Is there anyway that I can get this guy to like me?
Hello Audrey!
You may very well have read him correctly, but too much time has past.
This is extremely common with men. We have something of a shelf life to us. If things don't move forward within a specific period of time, we move on.
Two of the mistakes I see you girls making all the time are:
1) Not knowing about this shelf life, and,
2) Therefore, holding things out way too long and losing that window of opportunity.
Frankly, I sense this is the case here. Perhaps he showed you interest early on, but got nothing back from you so he's given up and is on to other (easier?) targets.
What you have to do now is to go way against your own programming to try to rebuild something. You're going to have to take a huge risk that; if you'd only have been more direct in the beginning, you'd never have had to take.
You're going to have to approach him yourself and suggest that you and he meet up outside of class to "catch up". Then, hand him your phone number and suggest that you're available this weekend. If you can, try to actually plan the date too. Suggest that maybe you and he get together on Friday night or Sunday afternoon for instance.
Audrey, next time, if you're interested in someone, move things forward. Don't sit around waiting or waiting is all you're going to do!
Best regards...
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