Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 3/23/2009

Question
Hey Dennis,

I've noticed something. From dating lots of men, I've found that men who tend to be really sexual are really intelligent....also end up being really psychotic as well. And when I say sexual...I mean really freaky stuff that the average male would not be into.

These men are fun in bed...freaks in the bed...but freaks on the street as well! They're nuts!

Most guys are simple...but these men are complicated as all hell. Despite being very smart.

These types of men (and women) bring a host of their psychological issues into the relationship. They were truly insane. It will drive the woman (or man) bonkers.

Oh yeah...and for some odd reason...they post naked photos of themselves up on the internet too.

People say 'oh that's the guy you're dating? yeah i've seen his dick too' DUH-OH.

any clue why these raunchy men (and women) tend to be nuts?

is it possibly the same reason that really smart (genius level) people tend to be nuts as well?

Answer
Hello Deanna!

Thank you! I've had some REALLY great questions today and this is another one of them!

I'm not sure if smart people are uber-sexual or if uber-sexuals tend to be really smart. However; this is actually a very well-known fact! People (of either gender) that are extremely smart also tend to be much more in touch (pardon the intended pun) with themselves and their own sexuality than those that are less so. If you need proof of this, go to a swinger's party or an SM club some time. You'll find a naked, writhing meeting of Mensa!

The reason for this tends to be that being hyper-sexual requires a great deal of imagination and visual, aural and mental creativity.

As to them being freaks in the streets; that is much harder to call. With men, it's actually pretty rare, but with women, well, watch out!

There are a number of reasons why this is so, but the most important one is simply that men aren't allowed to get away with being crazy. We don't get the same pass that women get. For instance, if you're nutty at work, you get left behind, demoted or let go.

On the flip side, women get all sorts of excuses. For instance, "it must be that time of the month" or "yeah she's crazy, but she fucks like a rabbit!" or they're simply terrified of bringing it up because women hold a protected status in our culture. It's considered sexist to criticize women - even zany ones!

Now, you might be confusing two different types of "nuts" here (and I'm not talking about those boys in his pants!) Men aren't as commonly crazy as in socially deranged as women are. Women tend to channel all that intelligence, creativity, freedom to be crazy and over-the-top energy into things that many consider anti-social behaviors. Look at Octomom as an example! Talk about getting a pass for being a fucking lunatic???

Can you imagine any guy being like that? I've never met any man that even came close. Men on the other hand tend to be more creative and flow that energy not only into sex but into everything they do. We often label this as "eccentric" or "passionate".

Yes, these guys can be complicated, but as far as being pure meshugena? It's not very common from what I've seen.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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