Expert: Lanay Stockstill - 4/30/2009

Question
Hi there. So, i've managed to get approach my crush and get his number and sent him back few times, but, he has a gf.Somehow, he's making me to like him more,saying things like "Get anything from your heart" when i wanna buy some gift for him, and called me up when he know that i'm sad (but i didn't tell him that my crush is him), and asking me if i mind sharing my problems with him. All the things that he do to me seems to be very caring, although we've only talked to each other since monday (and i had a long-time crush on him, he treats me as if we've known each other for a long time, and calling me up when i'm sad, can i know what this mean??? And how do i make him like me more even though he has a gf already??
Is it worth it to try and let him knows that i care about him alot?
Thanks for all your advice,appreciate it alot.

Answer
Hi Vaniessa,

Being attracted to a guy and finding out he has a girlfriend is very disappointing, and though I know it is very tempting to go after him regardless of that fact, it isn't a good idea.

If he responds to you and is unfaithful to this girlfriend in thought or action, will you really want someone like that?  If he leaves his girlfriend for you, you will always wonder when he will do the same to you.  Very rarely is that type of behavior not repeated once it happens.  Of course you can think he would never do that to you, but the past girlfriend probably thought the same.

Move on.  If he likes you and is unhappy with his girlfriend, he will end it eventually and be available to you.  

I know this isn't the answer you want to hear but being the other woman or the girl that broke up his relationship isn't a title you want either.  If he comes calling, it is better that he has no ties to anyone else.

Lanay