Expert: Rhapsody Love - 4/30/2009

Question
Hi there. So, i've managed to get approach my crush and get his number and sent him back few times, but, he has a gf.Somehow, he's making me to like him more,saying things like "Get anything from your heart" when i wanna buy some gift for him, and called me up when he know that i'm sad (but i didn't tell him that my crush is him), and asking me if i mind sharing my problems with him. All the things that he do to me seems to be very caring, although we've only talked to each other since monday (and i had a long-time crush on him, he treats me as if we've known each other for a long time, and calling me up when i'm sad, can i know what this mean??? And how do i make him like me more even though he has a gf already??
Is it worth it to try and let him knows that i care about him alot?
Thanks for all your advice,appreciate it alot.

Answer
Vaniessa,

Since I give advice about life-long monogamous love, I don't think you want to share him with his current gf. So, no, I don't think you should tell him how you feel about him. You're probably showing it in the way you relate to him. Did he ask you if you have a bf? If he knows that you don't and he decides he likes you more than his current gf, then maybe he'll break up with her. Stay good friends with him and wait and see if he decides he likes you better.

If he aggressively pursues a romantic relationship with you (such as kisses you or puts him arm around you tightly), then you need to ask him what about his gf. You don't want him playing around with you and then going back to his gf. But it's OK to just be friends and if he's acting like he really cares about you (which he seems to be doing), maybe he will leave his gf and go with you.

It may be hard for you to wait, but if I were you, I'd wait at least 3 mos. before telling him how I feel about him or asking if he prefers you over his gf. If it comes to that, you need to decide if he's worth keeping as just a friend or if it's worth possibly losing him as a friend in order to gain him as a bf, because if you ask him to choose between you or her, he might choose her. So you need to give the relationship time so he knows how he really feels about you.

Good luck!

- Joyce