Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/12/2009

Question
I am at school and the guy i like is 2 years older than me. I really like him and he is perfect for me, we like all the same things and the few differences we have are unnoticable. We have become really good friends over the last few months though we have been friends much longer. I don't really know if he likes me as a friend or more and how best to get him to like me as more than a friend. When we pass in the corridors he always makes eye contact and says 'hi' and smiles. We have some jokes just between us and we have been together just the 2 of us a few times now, we both smiled and laughed loads and he told me he really likes spending time with me. The last time it was just me and him we went on a walk together, it lasted at least 3 hours, though it didn't feel like it, and he bought us both ice-cream at the end. I said to him my friends all thought we were dating, i wanted to know what he thought on the subject and we were manking jokes of what it would be like if we did date and how the whole school would make fun of us when they found out. At the end before we got piked up he said this was like a date but without the date part. the next day at school i was giving him back his jaket and we made eye contact but didnt look away, neither of us said anything and it wasnt akward but i had to go to class and when i said this he said oh, yeah but in a kind of dissapointed way. does it sound like he likes me?? and how do i get him to notice in that way or to let him know i like him without scaring him??
thank you for your help

Answer
Hello Poppy!

Unfortunately, I have no idea if he likes you or not. Doing this friendship thing however is working against you and you're going to need to try to move this somewhere if he won't.

What I suggest is that the next time you and he get together (invite him specifically if nothing is already set-up) get close to him and hold his hand. He likely doesn't know you're interested in him any more than you do. Someone has to make some move somewhere to express that interest.

Best regards...

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