Expert: Rhapsody Love - 5/29/2009

Question
I have a BIG thing going on. I felt in love with this shy guy, he acts different
towards me than anyone Ive ever known. He stares at me, he is really
outgoing with everybody else but me, he talks to me different than any other
girls, he respects me, he looks at me when i am not looking and my
girlsfriends notice it and tell me. After 1 year we no longer saw each other
than often but I still see him around and he still stares at me, so I after all this
time i send him a message through myspace saying hello and how was
everyhing going in his life, and he never responded. Then couple of  weeks, I
sent a second message... even nicer and nothing!  suddently I met his
bestfriend in person  couple of days after (someone introduced us), and now
his bestfriend added me to myspace ands chats to me over the phone all the
timee... now I feel that his friend likes me because he asks me soooo many
questions about everything i do, think, etc......  and I know they are together
most of the time.

 I dont know what else to do???  He wants to meet me next week with his
friends ( hopefully with him! ) but I dont want to give him the wrong idea.... I
just want to talk to my Shy Guy...   HELP HELP PLEASE!!!!!

How come he still hasnt responded me yet? I am feeling ridiculous :(

Answer
Sometimes shy guys can't get up the nerve when those hormones are churning - when they are really attracted to someone. They don't want to say the wrong thing, so they don't say anything.

I seldom reply to people on MySpace because I use a different email account for it that I seldom look at, so maybe he does that, too.

Try to relax around him and just talk to him friendly the way you would anyone else. Ask him questions that will help you get to know him better and get him to talk (does he like this music? what music does he like? what tv does he watch? what kind of movies does he like? does he have a hobby? If so, what?).

You can't be sure he won't "get the wrong idea" if that idea is that you like him, because apparently you do. If he makes a pass, just let him know it's too soon and you want to get to know him better.

Good luck!

- Joyce