Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 5/20/2009

Question
helo, my name is grace, i,m 19 years old, its my second year in college. i,m very classy, not interested in one night. i,m looking to find real love. and i have a things for wall street looking guys. i think a  man in a suit and tie is just sexy. its so attractive to me. my question how do i date a wall street looking guy in their early or late 20,s.  i live in NYC. close to wall street and those guys look so attractive. but i never get hit on. some of them will stare at me but will not say anything. how do i approach, how to dress and just anything that will help me date a wall street looking guy. thank you.

Answer
Good for you!

Remember that classy guys don't exactly "hit on" you.  They are more sophisticated than that.  You don't say where you see them -- on the street?  If they're career oriented, during the day, they are focused on business.  Find out where they go at night, where the clubs and classy bars and dance places are, and go there.  Dressing appropriately.  

Brush up on your subtle flirting skills - you want to think like a man, but act like a lady.  I offer an ebook on how to do this.  email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Is there a church that you know draws that kind of man?  Look up about churches in the area.  Organizations - chamber, etc.

Try the Internet dating sites.  Works sometimes, you'd be surprised.

You need to set aside time each week for this.  It will be worth it.

Quick tip:  If they stare at you, meet their eye then look down quickly, touch your hair.  Look back up.  Also try saying "hi" and something that fits (windy, isn't it?)  Be approachable, but not aggressive.  Just that in the daytime, they're always in a hurry.

I also offer extended coaching on this if you are interested.  Then I can work with your particular situation.

Good luck!
Susan Dunn, M.A.