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I moved to the dominican republic a year ago and re-encountered myself with a guy i had met about 4 summers back. It was hard for me at the start he was so infatuated with me and i was still getting over my ex and scared to open up again to him. He was there for me, while i cried, everyday and promised he wouldn't be the same. When i was finally ready to open up to him, without realizing it, he was ready to move on. We were together about 7 months and have spent the last 4-5 months "breaking up". He would always say how while we were together it was so perfect, but we weren't right for each other and it couldn't work not now; then he would just say this might be the biggest mistake ever. It was as though a re-run of the wonder years on Nickelodeon at least every 3 three days ending in the most passionate sex i had ever experienced in my life. I gave him some space for about 2-3 weeks to see how he would feel, yet when i went to visit him it started off the same as usual but ending in him tell me that he didn't know what i want to hear from him if he loved me or didn't love me exactly what! When i said i know you don't want to be with me he just repeated what i had said " i don't want to be with you" but yet again in that unsure tone. I just got in my car and had to leave from the shock; those words had never actually came out of his mouth, regardless the tone. I don't know if to give it time or just let it go. At one point he asked me if i had ever been with anyone else even a kiss after i responded no he said that one day i would someone better then him. I don't if he was just trying to hear my response or what, which is something he loves doing. I'm so confused.
Hello Maireni!
Confused? You and me both. What is it you want to know?
It doesn't seem as though this is going to be a successful relationship and if you're asking if you should stick in there, I'd say no - go find someone else that is going in the same direction as you. He's not.
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