Expert: L.E. Coleman - 6/5/2009

Question
Dear Mr.Coleman,
I am so grateful to you to guide me the right way...just have a doubt in my mind so thought of getting it clarified so that I could apply what you have said in the right manner. When you say it is the "fear" that makes me do all the silly things to keep in touch with my guy then should I just stop thinking about what he is doing and what he isn't. May be I should just wait for time to do the needful and not force things to happen out of the "fear" that I have developed subconsciously. Instead of thinking of losing him, all I should be doing is to be calm and undisturbed and just have faith in God. Am I right. I would be glad if you could put this application in simple words so that I would grasp it better. I know you have already been of great help to me..just a little more of help is what I am in need of...Thanks in advance.
Regards and love,

Gayatri

Answer
"all I should be doing is to be calm and undisturbed and just have faith in God."
Yes, that's it. If you truly want a loving relationship begin to thank God for your soul mate right now as if he's right there by your side.  It's only when we have give up all effort in finding the right one for us that they come along. Now, in your case, the right one may be the one that you're in love with now or he may not be the one who will prove to be your soul mate.  If you have narrowed down your soul mate to this one specific person you may end up frustrated in the end and will go through a period of pain. God can never force or manipulate others for our purpose.  That is to say, your guy has a will--and if he's not ready to abandon his fear of being with you, for whatever reason (lack of money, fear of your mother, etc.)there's nothing you can do to attract him.  People who are really meant to be with each other will eventually find each other. This could happen when your 25, 35, or 50. But when you are confident and have faith that what you want has already been given time becomes irrelevant. Your desire for love has already been dispersed into the universe. The only way you can mess things up is by fearing that you won't get what you want.  Trust God. Trust your intuition. Trust your heart.  You already know right now if your guy is truly ready for you. I personally don't think he is. What does your heart tell you?  Listen to it.  Don't fool yourself.  When you can let go of the notion that he might not be the one for you,(whether he is or not)the law of attraction will begin to work for you. I know this is hard for you to hear because you're too close emotionally to your guy.  The notion that he might not be the one is painful and causes great fear.  But this is your time to move beyond fear to certainty.  The certainty is this: God has heard your request for true love and there's nothing that can stop it from coming.

God bless you, my sister.