How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/how to get my ex back

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Expert: - 7/6/2009


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QUESTION: hey its this guy in ma school. we were into a relationship for a month. but due to some problems we broke up. he has a new gf. but we still are like very close friends and share evrything. my friends tell me not to be with him because he is a playboy and after he did all to me i should not talk to him. but i am really serious about this guy. we talk all the time on phone and net and even meet sometimes.he makes me feel so good and he even hints like sometimes that he likes me. i dont know if he is just passing time. beacuse he already has a girlfriend and says i am his close friend. tell me please what do i do.i really want this guy back in ma life. please help me.

ANSWER: Hello Kaushiki!

You definitely DO NOT want to be his friend here! You want something more and if you're always available to him, he never has a chance to miss you. What are you doing, holding on hoping that he'll eventually dump his girlfriend for you? If that was what he wanted, he'd never have left you in the first place.

This is a good time to get some distance between you two so that he can feel like something's not there. Right now, he has everything - and ultimately, you have nothing.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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QUESTION: so in this case should i completly  stop talking to him?
or can we remain as friends we are?

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Hello again Kaushiki!

If you remain as friends, that's all you'll ever be. If you want him to miss you, you're going to have to be completely gone. Not 10% gone. Not 50% gone - 100%.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
BAM! TV
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
http://beingaman.tv
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"
Producers of "BAM! TV"

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