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I have started to have feelings for one of my good friends. People always tell me that if I like him then just tell him. I'm scared to tell him because it might make everything akward and he might not feel the same way about me. What do I do?
Danielle,
I agree that you should tell him, but you could do so in a way that gives him an out if he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he's doesn't feel the same way. Of course, your feelings may still be hurt, but if you could still be his friend, then you should say so.
You could find a time when the two of you could be together - go to lunch or to a movie you would both like, etc. Then tell him that your feelings for him have changed and that you'd like to be more than just friends and wonder if he feels the same way but that if he doesn't, you'd still like to stay friends.
It still might feel awkward for you, but you'll feel better once it's out in the open.
Good luck!
- Joyce
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My own marriage has worked out great, though it has taken work, I've learned a lot and continue to learn. I realize, though, that everyone is different and so is each relationship, so I enjoy observing others. I've also read a lot about the subject and know many couples - some who have made poor partner decisions and others who've maintained a lifelong relationship of love.
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I am educated as a teacher and primarily work with young people, many who are already attracted to the opposite sex at a young age, but their families often are poor role-models for having a life-long relationship.
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