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Last January I lost my job. Recently I had to move across the US, from city suburbs in the West to the far out country in TN, to live with my sister. I'm still looking for work in the Memphis vicinity. Since I'm unemployed and living so far out, it's very difficult join groups that meet in the city so I may social network and meet men for dating. Therefore, I'm much more reliant now on meeting men through the Internet.
How do I attract the right man/men for me, the man of my dreams? I do not have my own vehicle, so I borrow my sister's old truck which be-the-way is not street legel. The truck needs the broken/cracked headlight and windshield replaced. But my sister is satisfied with the way it is. My sister is also very old-fashioned, so if she knew I was meeting men through the Internet, I'm sure she would have a fit and not support my dating anyone found through the Internet.
Perhaps it isn't viable for an unemployed person to find the man of her dreams!?
Hello!
If you're trying to attract men through the internet, you're just going to have to take what comes. You don't have much choice frankly other than to weed through the responses you get and hopefully (mostly through a miracle) find the guys that meet your goals. I constantly say that the internet is a terrible way to meet people and this is only one of the reasons why.
Sure, you can craft messages in some ways to help you, but by doing so you're going to alienate some great guys and draw other not-so-great ones at the same time. Not much of a trade off.
No, it's absolutely viable for you to meet someone even when you're unemployed. It's not ideal as you have no place of your own to entertain, but on the other hand, you don't need much money to meet people.
One good example are job fairs and job clubs. You're looking for a job anyway, right? You're going to meet many guys there that are in the same boat as you. Sure, you want to meet a guy that already has a job, but everyone eventually finds one and then you'll already be there when he does.
Going out to do inexpensive things like shooting pool or throwing darts is another example of things you can do that won't cost you much (if any) money and there are a ton of others.
You have to be a little creative, but being unemployed doesn't mean you have to be alone.
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| Comment | Thank you for your advise! I will look into the job fairs and job clubs. When I lived in CA, I joined meetup groups in the area. However, there are no job or singles meetup groups near where I live (I'm way in the country) though there are meetup groups in the city. Just very difficult when I don't have a job and own transportation and a supporting sister. I agree about online dating. I have only met a few men in the past through online profiles. Every time I meet someone, he thinks that as long as we are getting along (when we first meet) that we are automatically dating..even that first meeting is a date! Or..the guys that respond to online ads are actually just looking for sex, no matter how I write my profile. When I (chance) meet someone in a meetup group or out at a dance club or some other way when I'm out, we don't automatically think that meeting is a date and don't consider ourselves as "claimed" by each other and automatically a dating couple. We see the relationship as the relationship is...just two people who just met and so far get along and have some common interests. There would be more meetings, know each other better, before we could consider ourselves as a dating couple. A dating/commited relationship is so much more than just being nice to each other. One can't truly know a person through an online profile. Besides, when getting to know someone in person, there are so much more perceptions to experience. The getting to know period is so much more fun, pleasant and erotic. With Internet, I think people tend to let their imagination wonder, imagine what the other person is like in person then believe that fantasy. Online, I think our minds "fill in the gaps". That's why sometimes people are disappointed when they finally meet someone, because the person is "different" than who they knew online. | ||
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