How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Mixed Signals From Him!

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Expert: - 9/28/2009


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Hello :-)
I have a very interesting problem going on with my bestfriend, who is also my biggest crush! He wants to hangout every weekend and for the past month we have.. In august he said he didnt want to go out with me, but this month he said he really liked me, an didnt want to tell me because he thought id get mad at him. Then I asked him the next day if he liked me, and he said "he didn't want to go out, it's just a crush" and that he was sorry for telling me that he liked me like that. But lately we've been getting close, and apparentls of his friends asked him what was going on between us, and that he "might ask me out". This past Friday our school had a homecoming dance and he said "we should go as a couple to get the discount price". So we did and we danced. Like crazy and then a slow song came on and he just looked at me, so I asked if he wanted to dance and said yeah! So we slowdanced for the first time ever :-) and when I got home we talked on the phone for an hour. Then the next day on a bus, we sat together and listened to music and shared a blanket and I asked *smoothly* if I could lay my head on his shoulder and he said I could so I layed on him the rest of the trip and we talked and laughed a little!! Then when I got home (really late at night) we talked on the phone for three hours!! And we decided that we were gonna make shirts together and we talked about our feelings and I felt like he told me personal things. Then today we hung out and watched a movie at his house.
He is a few years older than me, and all my friends think were dating. One of his friends said he doesn't want to get too serious because I'm younger. I honestly think were just friends.. But it feels like so much more and I want it to be more!! He is amazing :-) ah what should I do?
Thanks for your time!!!

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Hello Robin!

You should do exactly what you're doing now. You're dating. Who cares what he or anyone else decides to call it? Just be comfortable with the fact that everything else is in place and continue to move it forward.

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