How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Where do I start?

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Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 9/26/2009


Question
Okay. We're both twenty and in college. I don't know him very well, but we always say hi and make small talk when we see each other. How do I get his attention without being annoying or rude? I've messed this up so many times...boys I've liked have called me needy and clingy because I easily become obsessed and want to spend all my time with them. Needless to say, I've never had a boyfriend. I really DON'T want to get obsessed this time, but I also don't want to come across as being cold or stuck-up. I can be shy around people I don't know well, and my friends tell me that my shyness is intimidating. I'm scared of messing up this relationship the way I've always messed up my relationships with guys. Where do I start with getting to know him better? How can I do this without him thinking that I'm "just a friend?" Your advice is much appreciated. Thank you.

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Dear Liz,
First of all, try and relax.  I know it's hard ...
You have a great opportunity there where you can be around him, so just keep being friendly when he comes around and see what happens.  There's no guy in the world too shy (or anything else) to make a move if he's interested.  You don't need to do anything, just wait and see if it progresses.  Guys know how to do this, girls don't!

All the best,
Susan Dunn, M.A.
www.susandunn.cc

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I can answer any questions regarding attracting the man of your dreams including preparing yourself, letting it happen, The Rules that work and the rules that don't, meeting him, the first date, the dating relationship, recreating a failing relationship, how to tell if he's serious or not, how to get him to marry you not just date you, romance, everything. I coach clients how to do it step-by-step, and walk them through the process. I've talked with thousands of women ... let me help YOU.

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I have had years of experience coaching women on how to meet and marry the man of their dreams. How to catch him and keep him! Also how to get him back when he runs away, or how to get him to marry you when he's committment-shy.

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Founding member of CoachVille and member of original R&D team. Former Board member and former Board chair for numerous local organizations.

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I am widely published on the Internet on subjects related to dating, romance and marriage, as well as other lifeskills topics. (It isn't just about "dating," it's about YOU.) I'm rated A-plus on ideamarketers, and my articles regularly appear on websites around the world.

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MA in Clinical Psychology.

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I have an international coaching and consulting practice, I train and certify other coaches worldwide, and have been a regular presenter for the cruise lines.

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I have helped many, many women find the man of their dreams - and keep him.

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