Expert: Rhapsody Love - 12/26/2010

Question
Hi,

I actually met this guy online and he have been constantly messaging me everyday since he woke up till he sleep. it continues for 2 weeks, but after our 1st date, he didn't message or call me anymore. i know it might be i'm not attractive to him, or i have did something wrong.

I just want to know why he don't call after the first date and how do i salvage the mistake i did if there's any. Should i text him? I need to do this because i feel that i actually like him.

Hope to hear from you soon.
thanks

Answer
Livia,

I know how you feel. It's a bummer - seems like he was hot for you and now he's not. Are you sure he wasn't just trying to get into your pants? Or do you really think he's a decent guy? Those are retorical questions. Think about what you know about him.

If you really want to pursue him, think about what is the worst thing that could happen. It sounds like he's dropped you. So how would contacting him hurt you? Short simple contacts are best and not too many too often - you don't want to seem like a stalker. Say things that make you sound interested in him, like, "How are you? I miss hearing from you. I hope you're not sick."

I hope that helps. Good luck!

- Joyce