Expert: Azure - 2/24/2010

Question
Ok... I have known this guy since I was 3 years old... He is 20 and I'm 15 turning 16... We were together for 11 months almost a full year... On Valentines day we were together and he told me he would not leave me he had promised me that he would not leave for his ex-girlfriend... But as 2 days had passed he was going and try and get me out of where i was... he was goin to do everything he possibly could just to help me... then when his brother told him no that he didn't want us to be living there that's when he all of a sudden said he didn't want to be with me and that he wanted to be back with his ex-girlfriend... I feel so lost hurt and confused... i was with him for a night and well we did stuff and i just had to tell the ex-girlfriend like it was hurting me inside that we even did it... and she asked him if he has done anything with any one and he had told her no! nothing has happened... now he wont talk to me he wont do anything... and he had just finished telling me the same day which was yesterday... he didn't want me to leave he didn't want to be out of my life... but he is the one that is backing out of my life... and i'm not sure what to do... i can't eat i can't sleep... all i can do is think about him and its terring me up inside.... i'm just not sure how to cope with out him in my life... i want him back so badly... and i don't wanna ever lose him even just as a friend... please help.... how do i get him back... or do i just leave compleatly???? Thanks.... please get back to me... @  i need advice... i feel like i'm goin insane... and no where to go....

Answer
pull yourself together, get counseling if you can't--he's an adult, you're a kid, and he could be jailed for having sex with a minor; your insecurity/dependence have made you give up all self-esteem...this is an unhealthy addiction for a guy who is just jerking you around--stay away, consider it HIS loss, don't get involved with anyone til you're at least 18