Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 2/7/2010

Question
Hi,

I have just finished with a guy i really liked after  seeing him for a few months.I wasn't happy with the way things were going and started to feel used and anxious because i knew deep down inside he couldn't give me what i wanted.

I have been very depressed for many years but the past year i have really made a breakthrough and things have slowly began to get better for me. I was starting to love myself and build my self esteem which i think was the root of my problems. I feel this breakup has set me back a bit and i am feeling like things are hopeless again.

I have decided to do a lot of things different next time and let any man i meet prove to me he is worth it. I think i get too involved too quickly then it all goes wrong.

i just don't understand why it feels so impossible to meet Mr right

I am and have never had a proper relationship . Things start off well then they always quickly deteriorate because the men i keep meeting don't want to commit. I am an attractive, independent and loving woman. my biggest dream is to meet a  man who loves and respects me as much as equally as i do.

I have written down all the qualities i want and am trying to use the law of attraction and stay positive but i am feeling down at the moment.  i don't really meet anyone im attracted to very often and i just feel like its taking so long. i want to meet someone special  within the year but how can i make this happen?

I want to get married and have a family of my own. I feel lost sometimes and don't have much family or friends. i feel left out when people talk about their family and boyfriends becaue i havent got one I don't know what else i can do ?

Answer
Dear Afia,

I'm sorry to hear this.  Two things might help.  One is to get mental health therapy is you feel you are truly "depressed."

Another is to get dating coaching, because all of us these days have a hard time meeting Mr. or Ms. Right.  It isn't like it used to be, it's confusing to all concerned, and it's easy to give up and stay home after a while.  

It is always sad when a promising relationship doesn't pan out, too.  But you need to keep going with this.  

If you would like dating coaching, contact me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .  It would be a wonderful investment in your future.

All the best,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc