How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Why do guys do this?

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I've had a crush on this guy for two years and we always used to make eye contact. His friends used to stare with him too. I really thought that he was attracted to me. Our first conversation, he couldn't make eye contact at all. He smiled at me a couple times too. It's summer already so I confessed my feelings online and he replied that he didn't feel the same. I just want to know why guys would stare and smile and their friends would smile knowingly when they see you only to find out the guy didn't even like you in the first place? Are they just playing games?

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Hello!

Oh...I get it. You think I can read this guy's mind! Sorry, that's not a skill I've mastered - yet.

There's no particular "system" or "game" involving staring at someone you're not interested in. I can't tell you why he and his friends did that. It doesn't have any particular meaning or purpose. Maybe they were staring at you because you were staring at them first?

I will say this however: people hold eye contact for different amounts of time in different parts of the world and country. Maybe what you thought was him staring was simply him just holding eye contact with someone he'd never met before. You may have interpreted it as staring when in fact, it was just a natural (and locally-based) response.

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