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Expert: L.E. Coleman - 6/5/2010


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There is a guy in my class.he is a allrounder .  He is good in studies,sports but has crude humour.he comments on almost everyone & everything  and also teases . He doesnt tease me 'cause i dont respond. I really  love  him. Although he is always polite  with me but i think i  dont  stand a chance 'cause i am FAT. What should i do?

Answer
Hi Freida.

This question is a no-brainer.  Any guy who gets his kicks out of belittling other people isn't fit for a relationship with anyone. He'd be the same type of guy who would lead you into thinking that you'd have a chance with him, only to laugh at you for even thinking about the two of you ever getting together. If you want my advice: STAY AS FAR AWAY FROM HIM AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.  I know it's not what you want to hear. But this guy isn't ready for anything serious. He has a serious self-esteem problem and feels that he has to make everybody else look bad so he can feel good about himself.  On the other hand, you have a serious self-esteem problem because of your weight. Take care of yourself first.  That is to say, do things that make you feel and look good. A good relationship will come along when you begin to take care of yourself.


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I can answer questions regarding the dynamics of the laws of attraction regarding attracting a soul mate"

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I have worked in numerous social service and mental health agencies in the private and public sector for the past 25 years. I've worked directly with men and women under the supervision of various mental health and social services professional, i.e. psychologists, psychiatrist, nurses and addictions counselors. I've held numerous positions with the Indiana Family and Social Services in the area of public assistance and mental health. The broad training and experiences I received dealing face to face with individuals, families and their various problems has allowed me to merge the practical with the spiritual to help them come up with solutions for their specific problems. I have written books on this subject as well as books for non-custodial parents to help them deal with the dynamics of being a single parent. I am the author of "How to Avoid a Stupid Man: A Woman's Guide to Attracting Her Soul Mate which takes women on a exploration of self discovery in order that they might attract the right man.

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I am the co-founder of Crowner-Coleman Publishing, a publisher of self-help and motivation books for men and women

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I attended Ivy Tech Community College and Indiana/Purdue University at Indianapolis and I've have numerous credit hours in psychology, sociology, etc. I received Highest Honors for academinc exellence from Indiana/Purdue University at Indianapolis during the spring of 1998. I've also attended classes the School of Metaphysics.

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Highest Honors for academinc excellence in 1998 from IUPUI USA Book News Best Book 2007 Award Finalist in the self-help/motivation catagory for the audiobook The Black Man's Little Book of Success Secrets

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