How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Attraction

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Expert: - 7/8/2010


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Hi, I am 17 years old young lady. Most of my life I focused on education and activities preparing me for university. Now college is right around the corner and my apprehension about dating has sudden risen.

#1: One part of my brain is telling me I will never find
my guy aka my "soul mate", unless I date around. From dating, knowledge will come showing me what to look for in a guy and what guy feels me. Somehow, from all my gained dating experience I have obtained I will finally one day find "my guy". Anyways, this is what my brain is telling me.(Personally,this sounds like a waste of time and effort to me.)

#2: Then there's my heart(I think)telling me, I should just wait to for life to introduce Mr.Soul Mate. One day fate will intervene and unexpectedly him and I will meet. Regardless of who I date, I am destined to meet this guy at a specific time and place.So it's a waste of him searching because when the time is right, we'll cross paths'. This is what I think my heart is constantly saying.

Honestly, I don't feel the need to date right now. Though, sometimes loneliness does try to persuade me to follow the social norms of today.

Do you think fate intervenes in out love lives and do soul mates recognize their soul mate once they meet? Am I crazy for believing #2?

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Veronica,

I think it's a combination of the 2. As a thinker, you should consider the traits you'd like in a guy and where such a guy might be hanging out in places you'd also enjoy being. It might be somewhere in college, so that sounds like the right place for you. You're right experience helps and you will make friends whom you might think will turn into Mr. Right, but it doesn't happen and you'll have to move on and find someone else. 2 of my first guy friends whom I thought might turn into Mr. Right turned out to be gay.

It sounds like you have the right idea about it. If you're in the right places where Mr. Right will be and are making friends, it will likely happen.

Good luck!

- Joyce

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