Expert: Rhapsody Love - 1/8/2011

Question
Hello. I firstt asked you a question awhile ago about a guy from my college that I am interested in. I took your advice and decided not do be pushy. I did send him a message to casually wish a happy new year. he replied to my facebook post and we wroter for a bit talking about school and career plans. He asked why I did not have a photo of myself and complimented me on how I looked. what are some signs that he is interested. I am hoping he will ask me out but am not going to push. How will I know if he is even interested in me at all?

Answer
Michelle,

Those are the signs. The question isn't "is he interested in you?"; it's "how is he interested in you?" - as a friend, as a sex object, or something in between {friend with benefits), or for a serious relationship.

You can't always wait for a guy to ask you. Find out what you have in common. Things you might like to do the same. Maybe you could suggest doing something together that you both like. Or if you don't feel comfortable doing that, link to a public event you're going to that he might be interested in and see if he shows up there. It might not work, but if it doesn't, it could be he has a busy job or doesn't use Facebook much. My husband wasn't very observant; I had to ask him directly - to come to a party at my house, but there was no Facebook or even email in those days. You have to feel him out by getting to really understand him if you care enough, maybe you'll see a post of an event he's going to and you can just happen to be there and see what happens.

I hope this helps.

Good luck!

- Joyce