Expert: Azure - 12/31/2011

Question
I left my boyfriend of seven years for a co-worker. I actually left him for many other reasons than just my co-worker, but I think my co-worker was just the final straw to the already deteriorating relationship.

Now, I’m in an undefined, sexual relationship with my co-worker who lives on the opposite coast. We text/email/talk daily and he says that he can’t just have a casual relationship with me. He would like me to move to be closer to him, and would like it to happen pretty quickly – within a year.

I know I want to see where this can take us, but I’m not entirely sure that uprooting for a possibility of what could be is the smartest idea. Not like dating a co-worker who lives on the opposite side of the country was the brightest thing I’ve ever done either.

Things I should mention:

I really only hung out with my co-worker three times. Twice in a work setting (business trip) and once for a weekend at his place. Granted these  business trips were stretches of four or five days at a time.

We’ve been talking for four months, and I feel excited when he tells me things like “I’m wife material” and “I’m what he’s been looking for.” However, I feel like he may be moving things along faster than normal, and I can’t place my finger why. I’ve outright asked him, and he said with the distance, he has to act quickly or else the opportunities slip away.

I’m 27 and he’s 34.

I feel like I’m clinging on to a possibility, without much more else to take to the bank so to speak. We’ve never labeled ourselves, and even if we were to, we couldn’t be open about it since we are co-workers. It tears me up inside to be away from him, and it takes a great deal of my trust to assume that he isn’t just saying these things to me because he thinks I want to hear it.

Am I crazy for even pursuing him? What would an otherwise rational person do in this situation?

Answer
decisions like these should be made with the head, not the heart..obviously, you haven't known him long enough to give up alot, so the question becomes what exactly are you giving up/losing for the chance this might work?..why can't he be the one to come closer to you?..if you go there and it all blows up, will you still be okay or far worse off than you are now?...these are things to consider before deciding...