Expert: Azure - 12/19/2011

Question
So I am hoping you can help me with a very confusing situation. Last year I started dating "John". I am 33, He is 29. I am also a single mother of a young teenage son. (I got pregnant at 19). John and I hit it off instantly and for about 7 or 8 months had a great relationship. I fell totally in love with him, and everything went great. We always had fun together (we have a lot in common), sexually we are very compatable, got along great with each others friends, etc. We ended up breaking up because he said he just couldn't be serious with someone who has a child, that that wasn't what he wanted. So not seeing a future I broke up with him.  I, obviously was devasted and probably spent a good month depressed and crying. I moved on and then a few months later, out of the blue he had texted me. Kinda a Hi how are you text. I answered him and then we began talking to one another again. That was almost 6 months ago. Since then we have seen each other once and everything went fine. The wierd thing is, we talk almost every day. all day, sometimes he will text me as early as 7am, till 2am. He will call me and we have discussed going out together but everytime we try something kind of gets in the way on either one of our parts. I have come right out and asked him why he maintains a relationship with me and he dances around the question each time. The problem is I still love him, and want very badly to be with him. I have told him how I feel. I have gone as far as saying that if we are not going to be together then I think we should stop talking so I can get over you. In the interim we have both dated other people. All short lived. The truth is I have dated other guys but still find myself in love with John. I don't know what to do anymore and I don't understand why he maintains this relationship with me. HElp!

Answer
why he maintains it isn't important--as i see it, you're wasting your time/emotions, on a fantasy...the sooner you end this time-wasting communication and focus on meeting/dating new people, the better off you'll be...only HE knows why he maintains it, so the question isn't answerable, nor important...i gave you the best answer, wasn't rude, and you rejected it, so good luck wasting more time/energy on him..