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Hello again Dr Dennis
My ex has been in my mind for over a year now but I've been trying to move on as nothing has happened since we broke up.
I accidentally saw him last night at a pub, he was next to me to order a drink and I called him to say hello. He apologised for not noticing me and invited me to join him and his friends. I didn't go as I was too nervous. He later came back to apologise again for not seeing me while he was ordering a drink so I replied that I didn't care, so he kept quite and walked away. I think he was trying to make conversation and be nice to me and I threw it in his face. I should have caught that moment to make conversation and get closer to him. My friend thinks he still likes me because of the way he was acting and now I feel like I blew my chances to be friends with him.
What should I do? Should I send him a message or wait for the next time I see him to be more open? But who knows when I'm gonna see him again. He's a proud guy and he never replied to the messages I sent when we broke up. So I don't want that to happen again.
Help!
Thanks as always!
Hey Tamara!
First of all, what do you want here? Do you really want to be his friend or are you looking for something more? You need to honestly answer that question.
Think about this: as his "friend" you're going to have to listen to stories and watch him as he meets new girls, dates them and eventually, they are going to get upset that he still keeps in touch with the "ex" and you're going to be out. Wouldn't you expect that of any new guy you're dating?
Further, whatever broke you two up may be a distant memory, but trust me: as soon as you were to get past the excitement of being together again, all of that pain would come rushing right back - all because you haven't fixed any of it!
Think about this move and exactly what you hope to accomplish with it.
Best regards...
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