Expert: Rhapsody Love - 8/18/2011

Question
I met someone over a couple of weeks ago and wow we have a wonderful connection and we both seem to click! We met through facebook which is a rare place for me to meet. He was broswing and he saw me and was intrigued. I feel like I have known him for a long time and it is amazing how we met. We share similar things and past that makes us connect more. He sees the beauty in me and the person that I am which is incredible. He approaches me and was curious. Wants to get to know me better and we are. I told him that I liked him. He says he is seeing someone he just met. I was disappointed at first. He apologized if he lead me on in anyway and wants to be friends. He thinks I am an amazing girl with many qualities and wants to remain friends. I said yes we can be friends. I thought to myself I do need more male friends in my life and I think I would be an idiot to say no to that! Plus a lot of good relationships start out as friendships. No pressure at all! We plan on getting together and being friends! I respect him saying this to me because he is not dinking around seeing other women at once and playing with their hearts. He lets me know and I respect that. So in the future when we date I will know he will be faithful. :) The thing is that I really like this guy and I feel like he could be it and he seems excited that he met me as well and learning more about me. He is being respectful and honest about what his situation is. He has told me in the past it is hard to find a decent girl now a days who has a good heart. So he has been looking and bam he meets me but at the same time he met someone else he is seeing before me met me. I think when we spend more time together we will feel more chemistry and see the person that I am!
We shall see!!! I am excited about our friendship. My question is...can friendship lead to relationships? I know some do.

Answer
Alison,

I think you're right on about your thinking about this man. Yes, certainly many lifelong relationships start off with friendship. If you are honest with him and continue to be the person he sees in you, then maybe he will eventually come around. So you will have to decide how long you can wait or if you will see someone else, too. I don't know your age or how long you've been looking. If you have the patience, you can do things that will help you be a better person while getting to know him better as a friend.

Good luck!

- Joyce