Expert: Azure - 9/3/2011

Question
Hi~
I'm a 19-year-old girl. I don't like to admit this to very many people, but my only real goal in life is to find my soulmate and get married. I don't like to admit because people tell me I should want a career or blah blah. But finding a soulmate is more important to me because I have never connected with anyone. I don't want to go through a bunch of superficial relationships before finding the right person. I've had two boyfriends, neither of which I was in love with or slept with.
A little about me: I'm quiet in large groups, but once I'm alone and comfortable with someone, I'm very talkative. I've always been the wise, mature, smart one - which I'm proud of. I've always, always, ALWAYS been much more comfortable around older people than my peers - when I was 9, I was closer with the 16 year old camp counselors, and now that I'm 19, I don't really like being around anyone under the age of 35. I don't like "normal" people, especially teenagers. I'm a little damaged, but I've been in therapy for a while, which I've never been ashamed of, and I've made amazing progress - meaning I'm not angry or mean or slutty or crazy. My only real problem is that I'm a Highly Sensitive Person, which tr4anslates into me being very insecdure and terrified of rejection.
It's hard to fully explain myself without bragging and taking up a zillion pages, but basically: I'm a very sweet, polite, loving, protective, passionate, loyal person. I'm not a "people person" - I'm sociable with adults, but not with teenagers, and I would prefer to spend time with just one person. I'm not into going out or fancy restaurants or chick flicks. I like action movies, plain burgers, and watching people play video games. I'm a writer and a nerd in constant pursuit of knowledge.
I'm only attracted to quiet loner-types. I hate that b.s. notion that "opposites attract." I can't stand charismatic, flirty guys. I want to find someone just like me, just male. I guess my question is: is that even possible?
All the loners I see are either not interested in a relationship at all, or are only attracted to hot, perky blondes.
So, how do I find someone who likes me for me, and just wants to spend time together, at home, just the two of us - and who is logical romantic (meaning they want to find a soulmate, but don't think they're in love with every new girl they meet).

Answer
no magic answers alexandria..finding the right person is challenging for a great many; you have to start by just trying to MEET more people; this can be done by joining groups/clubs of interest to you, or by perhaps joining a few internet dating sites such as friendfinders.com