Expert: Rhapsody Love - 1/17/2012

Question
Hi. I met a cute guy at a volunteer meeting at my church last Sunday. We didn't really talk, but kept glancing at each other. I was too chicken to say anything to him when the meeting ended, but I was able to hear when his church volunteer shift was. I showed up for that service and saw him, but was again unable to talk to him before the service started and he was gone when the service ended (this is a large church and services are regularly over a 1,000 people). We received a list of people that were in the class, but the e-mail addresses for each person were not on there. I do know his first and last name, so I was able to find him on Facebook and Linked In. So...my question for you is: would it be creepy to message him on Facebook (just to say, "how do you like volunteering at the church?" or something like that). Is it weird to message someone you've seen and think you MIGHT be interested in?

Thanks!
Teresa

Answer
Teresa,

No, I don't think it's weird. I do it all the time. I'm active in my church and know people only through the internet. Other people friend me, too, and I sometimes confirm and sometimes don't.

If you message him first, telling him how you know each other and if he wouldn't mind you friending him, then it's less likely he'll not confirm.