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There was a cute guy at a volunteer meeting at my church last Sunday. We didn't really talk, but kept glancing at each other. I was too chicken to say anything to him when the meeting ended, but I was able to hear when his church volunteer shift was.

I showed up for that service and saw him, but was again unable to talk to him before the service started and he was gone when the service ended (this is a large church and services are regularly over a 1,000 people).

We received a list of people that were in the class, but the e-mail addresses for each person were not on there. I do know his first and last name, so I was able to find him on Facebook and Linked In.

So...my question for you is: would it be creepy to message him on Facebook (just to say, "how do you like volunteering at the church?" or something like that). Is it weird to message someone you've seen and think you MIGHT be interested in?

Thanks!
Teresa

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Hello Teresa!

It's not "weird" to message him. It'd be "weird" to stalk him however.

You have tons of context here because of the church. There's no reason you can't approach him, and there's no reason not to message him.

With that said, it'd be far better to just go up and talk to him, but at least a message would break the ice.

DO IT!!!!

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