Expert: Azure - 6/17/2007

Question
Hi,

Here's my situation/question. I would appreciate any advice you can offer.

I was on a business trip and rented a bicycle so I could keep up on my training for a marathon this summer.  As I was riding, I took a curve too quickly on a hilly street and had a massively embarassing crash. At the same time, a man came out of his house to walk his dogs. He came over to assist me. I wasn't hurt, just bruised up, and he offered to give me a lift back to where I had parked my truck. I accepted.

The whole encounter took 15 minutes, tops. He dropped me off and that was that. I got his first name, and took notice that he didn't wear a wedding band or have a carseat in his vehicle.

I went out and purchased a thank you card and went back to his house, but I couldn't work up the nerve to go to the door.  

I don't know much about him other than the few things we talked about during the drive. He seemed very nice, polite, and well-spoken. We had several things in common (both grew up in the Midwest, graduate degrees from Yale Univ., own dogs, etc).

I'm in my 30s and really haven't dated much. I've only had one relationship in my life that has lasted more than a couple of months. I'm pretty particular about what I want in a partner and this man seemed to have both the personality, instant chemistry, and the 'look' to which I'm attracted.

He didn't ask for my phone number or anything, but maybe he thought it was inappropriate, he's shy like me, or it didn't occur to him to do so until after I'd left or...? I don't know.

Should I send the card and include my contact info?  If I do, is there anything I should say that might get him interested in me?

It may be nothing (he *could* be involved) or he could be 'the one.' Like I said, I have very, very little experience with this.

What do you think?

Answer
"the one..??"...let's all settle down...send a card with your return address--anything else is overkill..if he's interested, he'll let you know..you asked if you should send a card, include contact info, and what i thought--i CLEARLY answered all 3..the "settle down" comment was an effort to get u back to reality, as thinking in terms of "the one" before having ONE date, is foolish; your ratings/comment were clearly unjustified; if you looked at  any of my previous answers, they are straight-forward and to the point, and the GREAT majority of questioners appreciate them..