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I'm leaving a TERRIBLE relationship of 6yrs. I've been secretly confining in a friend (male) x3yrs. We have deep conversations, great SEX and occassional Public appearances. The problem is I'm developing DEEP feelings (relationship) for him and don't know how to tell him. Every now and then we both find ourselves lost in the moment. We'll look at or say to each other, STOP because it's not that type of relationship. What should I do? I don't want to jump from one relationship to another. I'm just waiting for that right person.
Sincerely,
Confused and Waiting
Kim, you really are confused. It would be a good idea if you took some time to work on your emotional intelligence skills. You define "deep conversations and great sex" as not being a relationship. Or not "that type" of relationship. Either you don't know what a relationship is, or you weren't really having deep conversations and mistake "sex" for a relationship. I can't even follow what you're saying.
Furthermore you did this without ending the first "relationship," which means neither one had a chance.
I'm not sure you know what a real relationship is. Even with the "right person" you need to know how to have a relationship.
I suggest you get some coaching because you really are confused. I'm not sure at this point you would recognize the "right person" if he came along, and if he did, I'm not sure you know what to do to make a relationship out of it.
Susan Dunn
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Susan Dunn, Dating Coach
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I can answer any questions regarding attracting the man of your dreams including preparing yourself, letting it happen, The Rules that work and the rules that don't, meeting him, the first date, the dating relationship, recreating a failing relationship, how to tell if he's serious or not, how to get him to marry you not just date you, romance, everything. I coach clients how to do it step-by-step, and walk them through the process. I've talked with thousands of women ... let me help YOU.
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MA in Clinical Psychology.
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I have an international coaching and consulting practice, I train and certify other coaches worldwide, and have been a regular presenter for the cruise lines.
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