Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 8/27/2007

Question
I was seeing a man that I wasnt too interested in but he made so much effort- phoning exactly when he said he would, even sent txts throughout the day, when I mentioned where, he would be waiting right there when I arrived- all the kind of things a girl would die for in a relationship. So after all the effort I gave him a chance and we started a relationship. He was lovely as ever, until saturday night when I went to my ex's house and went to a party with him, but the plan was I would meet my boyfriend there. My ex and I have been close friends since our break-up, yet when I told my boyfriend I was there before the party he noticed something that I never did. We got into an argument as he told me he could still sense a connection between my ex and I. I laughed at his behaviour, thinking it was just jelousy towards my friendship with another man, whom also happened to be my ex. After I assured him there was nothing going on and it was a pure, clean friendship, we returned to the party together and his words kept repeating in my head. When I glanced over at my ex talking to his friends, he glanced back at me, took me outside and asked me if my boyfriend had a problem with us hanging out. I told him the details about the argument, as friends would, and as we were laughing it off the words "do you think we would ever make it if we got back together" came out of my mouth. I think it was curiousity more than anything at that point. Then we began to reminice about when we were together and suddenly we came to an agreement that we miss being together. I went straight to my boyfriend and before I even said anything, he told me he already knew it had come to this, he knew exactly why I had approached him and even knew for what reason I was breaking up with him.
Now I'm back together with my ex, but I'm begining to ask myself, did I make a mistake? When I txt message my new boyfriend he doesnt txt back immidiately like the last guy, sometimes not even at all. Its only when we're together that I feel so comfortable with him and dont worry, but the minute we're apart I wonder if he thinks of me as much as the last guy. I miss all the attention from the last man, but feel more comfortable with this one. I'v known him for a longer! Have I made a mistake? please- any advice will do!!!!

Answer
I haven't a clue ... and it would be confusing to the guys as well, I would think.  I'd go lightly and see how you feel, how it plays itself out.  That's the only advice I can think of.  Sooner of later it should be clear to you.  
Best,
Susan
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