Expert: Azure - 7/11/2006

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I am a 16 year old girl who has a crush on the boy next door. He is three or four years older than me but is still single. I do meet him at neighborhood events and get-togethers for about once in two or three months. I have been interested on him for the past six years in my life on and off. When I compare him with other men I believe that he is my soul mate. But I don't know if this is love or not because i do not have much experience with men. To tell you the truth I've never talked to this guy (Not a single word in my whole life) Whenever I see him I feel like ignoring him by running away from the scene or concentrating on something else. Because of this he thinks of me as a big headed unfriendly weirdo. And i can't just go and talk to him because that is not my type at all. I'm sort of a shy person. I want to find out whether he likes me or not before it is too late. And I want him to make the first move. Please help me.

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hate to throw water on your fantasy guy, bu he probably barely knows you exist; lower expectations to zero, dream if you like, but i doubt he'll be making any move; if you can't even TALK to him, you're certainly not ready to date him, and he probably knows it..

Yes I know . But what am I supposed to do to win the guy of my dreams. I need some tips to make him know that I have feelings for him. I'm realy new to this kind of stuff.


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i suppose you can tell him/write him about how you feel, but you'd really be setting yourself up for rejection; the advice: leave him in your dreams if you like, but realize this most probably won't be the guy--but the good news is they'll be PLENTY more to choose from..


Wht make you think tht he's not the right guy 4 me? n why will i get rejected? He had been a silent, non-social person (just like me)who doesn't move wit gals for some time. But i think he had changed his attitude after joining his new college. Pls pls pls help me.  

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i'm TRYING to help..want me to write him about you?? as to my thought, most guys his age will think of you as a "kid", and won't be interested; plus, he hasn't given ANY indication he's interested; your only choices are to talk to or write to him, or do nothing--wha would you like to do?