Expert: Azure - 12/29/2004

Question
"Hi my name is Jen and there is this boy Ronald, well we met over the summer and hung out all the time. Yes there is an age difference but i am so comfortable around him. you see we were at a hotel over the summer and we kissed for the 1st time under water and after that he approched me and said that all we could be was friends. That really confused me. We kept hanging out and he would come over with his little cousin and my little brother and his little cousin were really good friends. So when ever His cousin would come over he would come over too. We would play softball and watch movies together and one night he slept over. The lights were off and it was dark and he kissed me again and he started feeling up on me and i kissed him back and he kissed me then my little brother turned on the lights he STOPED as if he were emmbaressed! I dont know what to think Does he like me or NOT? Then one day my mom found out I liked him and she approched him and told him if u get my daughter pregnant i am going to have u thrown in jail!!! AFTER that he wouldnt talk to me.....a couple weeks past and he finally called me!! We started hangig out again and we were back to doing the things we use to do! Then one day at my house he was hiding so i went looking for him and i found him in my room. He threw me on the bed and we started making out! But he still insited that all we could be was friends!! I dont understand DOES HE LIKE ME OR NOT? Its been almost 2 months since i have seen him and there is this dance comeing up and it is the one where the girl asks the guy and i was woundering if u think i should ask him? I am really bad with rejection So please tell me what you think i should do!

Thanks Jen

Answer
when the girl is 15 and the guy is 18, it's a problem; he likes you, but is rightfully reluctant to get involved, especially after that warning from your mother; at 15, he could go to jail just for having sex, or even just sexual contact, even if you allow it...until you're a bit older, just stay friends; he's not gonna be with you under the present circumstances, nor should he be..