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Hi , I have this guy in my English class who I really like . We have assigned seating so he sits besides me at a table for two . We also see each other at church events ... youth group retreats , and every thursday night . We talk sometimes in English , small talk about people at our school , and just random things. How can I tell if he likes me or not . I think for starters we should become friends , but I feel nervous around him and I don't want to a flirt or -- all-over-him . I think he likes me too , at least thats what my friends are saying . CAn you please give me some tips on how to get him more interested . I know the whole BE YOURSELF LINE but I really just need to be instructed from an expert on what too do . ANy Advice is helpful . Thanks ! -
Sarah
Hi Sarah,
He definately likes you. If he didn't, he wouldn't have to talk to you; he could easily avoid you if he wanted. So the question is how much does he like you and could it be romantic. I think you're right that becoming friends is a good starter. As you get to know each other better, you may become less nervous, except maybe when you're anticipating something new happening between you two. I think you're already on the right track. Keep making small talk, but start making it less "small" by finding out what he likes and doesn't like (movies, music, food, sports, hobbies, etc.), about his family & his history, and his dreams for the future. When you know what he likes to do, you can ask him along when you're doing one of those things (like any friend would - possibly with other friends) and if he'd like it to be more than that, hopefully then he'll make a move.
Good luck!
- Joyce
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I am educated as a teacher and primarily work with young people, many who are already attracted to the opposite sex at a young age, but their families often are poor role-models for having a life-long relationship.
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