Expert: Azure - 12/11/2005

Question
Where do I meet them? I am a single 45 year old woman who looks alot younger. I never get asked out and when I do the guy is 23 (that's my lucky number)I love men of all ages I do prefer them younger than I am. Some are more mature then the older ones. A young guy with an old soul that's what I need. Anyway I am very selective I never find myself attracted to anyone. I need chemistry, a guy who lights up a room. What is the best way to find someone? I'm in my prime and I'm wasting it. Please help. Another thing I ask everyone if they know anyone for me, thet all say no.

Answer
it's 50 percent seeking/finding, 50 percent attitude; where to look: internet dating sites, work, clubs/organizations you might join, personal ads, niteclubs, singles dances, matchmakers, dating services, a bowling league or other team sport, church group...as to attitude, don't be afraid to look attractive guys in the eye, smile, even introduce yourself; stay patient, positive, prepared, try to be a tad more flexible instead of ruling out guys that aren't so great looking; it's partially a numbers game--the more avenues you explore, the greater your chances..