Expert: Azure - 5/24/2004

Question
Hello, I am having some trouble. I was wondering how I can make this guy fall even more in love with me than ever before. We usually communicate online/phone and I was wondering what things I could do/say to make him fall in love with me. He usually tries to make me jealous on purpose (I don't know why) and I want to make him jealous of ME for ONCE. I guess he loves when I chase after him- ask questions (or even seem a little paranoid) because it makes him feel secure and flattered. How can I get that attention too..from him? How can I turn it completely around-and make the focus on me this time? Make HIM jealous of me, and make him chase after me/fall in love with me? How can I make him in complete awe of me? Thanks so much for your help!

Answer
i don't subscribe to the premise that you "make" someone fall in love with you; if you possess loving attributes and the one you're with perceives them as such, love may be forthcoming; i'm not sure you want to pattern your behavior after his somewhat manipulative efforts to offset his insecurities, but if you do, just don't be so available and predictable; i.e., don't always call/write when you usually do, be out with friends on certain nights, mention casually some recent interaction with a guy, etc...you'll get some jealous reaction/attention, but real love is a giving that can only come from deep care and concern for another's "essence", so to speak...az