Expert: Azure - 10/14/2006

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Do you really think that I sound that lame? I mean I was only asking him as a friend those times....not too mention what is wrong with the girl asking the guy out?
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So being myself is really easy and it seems like we have some kind of friendship....but whenever I ask him out he always has plans(which I believe) and he says sorry. I guess I don't know if I should stop asking him and just see if he ever will(or will that make me seem like i'm uninterested?) My friends all seem to think I should just keep asking him to different things, but if he isn't interested in me then I don't want to make him not like me at all.
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Hi my name is Rosa and I am a sophomore in college...I have never really cared about making a good impression on guys(maybe because everybody always tells/told me that I had plenty of time and there was no reason to rush), but this is really causing problems not that I really like a guy and don't have a clue on how to procede...we hang out before our class together and sometimes talk for a little bit while walking back from class...but now we seem to be doing this weird dance of confusion...I don't know how to show him that I like him without making the situation weird or putting himself or myself in a bad spot...so I guess that I am wondering if there is any advice that you could give me to let him know that I like him w/o throwing myself at him and see if he likes me back. I have no clue about the whole dating situation and where guys are concerned I have never even had any guy friends...Thank you very much for your time

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just be yourself; he doesn't need to know the details of how you feel; if he wants to find out,  it's up to HIM to make a move/ask you out, and if he's interested, he WILL..

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my advice would be to have NEVER asked him, and certainly to not CONTINUE to; where's your self esteem?..you've already made your interest known; don't you think by now if he were interested, he'd ask YOU out?..lower expectations to zero, realize he's ONLY a friend, move on..

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asking as a "friend" or not, he a) refused most, if not all your requests, and b), apparently hasn't asked you to do anything with HIM--what does that tell you??..nothing "wrong" with asking a guy out, maybe ONCE, as long as you realize that rejection is a distinct possibility since, MOST TIMES, if the guy were interested, he'd be asking YOU out..