How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Relationships-Romance

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Expert: - 12/4/2004


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Hello azure
 What in heck is wrong with me? For years when I have been attracted to a woman, I maintain my interest-until,(and if), she expresses interest in me. Once she seems interested in me, my interest in her strangely nosedives quite a bit. She just doesn't seem nowhere as interesting. I am beginning to even seek prayer about this situation, fearful I may never gain a true relationship.
 Do many other people experience this when attracted to one another? Is this something which I may need to seek professional therapy for? What would be your diagnosis? What do you think might be wrong in my life?
 Thank you greatly,
 Mike Eidson, LAc.

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don't know you well enough to really answer; could be fear of intimacy/commitment; could be you just didn't like them enough to begin with; the feelings aren't that common but it can occur; certainly no need to panic, but some short term counseling  might help..

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