Expert: Rhapsody Love - 7/17/2002

Question
Hi,

How do I seduce a man? I'm absolutely in love with the man but he is very shy. I have seen him be crazier before and I know he can be. How can I bring him out and bring him to me?  

Answer
Celeste,

I don't know anything about your relationship with him. Since he's shy, I guess you haven't gotten to know him yet really. That comes first. Make friends with him. Show interest in him as a person first. Ask him questions and share about yourself, too.  Here's what I suggest.:

Find a time to just have friendly conversation (at lunch, coffee-break, etc.).  You can start by talking about something you already know about him (music he listens to, something you've overheard him talking about) or you can talk about the place where you first saw him asking how long he's been coming there, how did he find it or why did he start coming.  If those ideas don't work for this situation, you could start by talking about something in the news that you heard that morning and ask his opinion about it.   You can eventually move the conversation to likes and dislikes (movies, food, music, sports, hobbies, etc.) and if he mentions he likes to do something that you also like, you could ask him if he'd like to go to that with you.  If you keep up on the latest movies, sports events, concerts, etc., then you could suggest a specific one and possibly say you were planning to go any way, so it doesn't look like you're asking him on a "date."

Let him know you like him by looking him straight in the eyes and giving him a Mona Lisa smile or look up at him with your head partially bent down. Walk close to him. Through body language (as naturally as possible - try not to look phony) you can get him to understand how interested you are and you should try to let him make the real advances. Give him a few dates at least to feel comfortable to make an advance to you.  In the mean time, get to know him better and let him get to know you.

Good luck! Feel free to ask again.

- Joyce