Expert: Azure - 4/19/2005

Question
Hi, Im 21 and I met this guy online, he lives 4 hours away, and we havent seen each other yet. He is planning to come over here. I dont know why he is so attractive with personlaity and I dont want to let him go no matter what.. This last few times, when i was talking to him, I mentioned that i could go visit him later on if something came out of this and I also said that I was looking for a train schedule to his city. He said that I scare him and Im jumping to fast.
What can I do so he stays with me. I dont want to scare him away, but I like to tell the truth and be honest with myself. Is there any way I can make him more intersted in me? Please give me any advice in regard to this. Thank you so much for the time taken to answer the questions/  

Answer
first, relax, be yourself, lower your expectations, and don't get so addicted to someone you haven't even MET; just make plans to see each other and see what naturally happens; but before that, be aware that the transition from smooth talking emails to face to face interaction isn't always that easy, and that there's no guarantee this is going ANYWHERE; that said, appearing more independent and less needy might help how he sees you...make the mental adjustments, take one day at a time, and see what happens..