Expert: Erica - 12/16/2007

Question
hello my name is minara and i love my boyriend very much sice six years when i was just 13 years old and now i am 20 years old but we have'nt touch each other we niether kiss each nor he hold my hand ever please give me suggetion to attract him for sex i am very worried about that

Answer
Hi Minara, I hope all is well.  I read your question and I have a couple of questions for you... is he opposed to sex for personal reasons/beliefs?  I find it odd that you call him your "boyfriend" because intimacy and closeness are very important in a relationship. Sex is just an act, but intimacy is about an emotional and physical bonding that typically leads to sex. Does he portray you as his "girlfriend?" or just a friend who happens to be a girl??  I think that the two of you need to sit down and talk about what the dynamics are of your relationship.  Believe me - you can be in a relationship with someone where there is no sex.  I have done that, but when there is such a lack of intimacy I find that I found that I didn't feel that great about myself.  Intimacy is very important to me.  Therefore, I think there are a lot of questions that you may want to ask yourself and him.  I know that we as woman are awesome - desirable beings and we want someone to feel that way about us..... Your terrific.. if none of the above apply - it may be time to find someone who can't resist you.  I hope this helps.... "E"