Expert: Azure - 4/26/2004

Question
I commute by train to work everyday. For quite some time I have seen this attractive man take the same train and he often sits near me. I have been quite hurt in a past relationship so when this man looked at me (several times) I just looked like I wasn't really paying attention. I was just too scared to let him make eye contact. Unfortunately, I regret it and I don't know how to go about showing him that really I am interested. Recently I've noticed that everytime I pass his street he turns out of his driveway and we arrive at the train at the same time. Maybe it's just coincidence (same schedules) but for some reason I feel a bit more awkward now. I feel that the man should make the first approach. Is there some way I can still achieve this for this given situation? Any comments?

Answer
agreed it's easier to have the man make the initial contact, but the question is, what to do if he doesn't?..i guess that depends on your level of interest; since you're writing me about it, the level is probably fairly high; only you can determine if it's sufficient motivation for you to make the first move;  if you're ready to submit to the "nothing ventured, nothing gained" philosophy, perhaps you could arrange to sit next to him on the train, or maybe start a conversation about how you always seem to see each other; once the ice is broken, who broke it becomes quickly irrevelent....az