Expert: Azure - 1/4/2003

Question
I realized I have a pattern in my relatinships. I meet a guy, we have a great time together, talking, getting to know each other. Sometimes we become intimate, sometimes not. But it all lasts about 2-3 weeks, then they just pull back and go cold turkey on me. I usually hear something of a "I shouldn't be dating right now, lets just be friends". I've never had a relationship longer then 4 month and I'm 24. It's not that I don't want to - but it seems that I pick the wrong guys. At least that's what my friends are telling me. But how do I know who's wrong? Maybe the right guy will just come along, but maybe I need to change what I'm looking for? I'm pretty independent and I try to keep things simple, relaxed. And men tell me they are very comfortable being with me, yet then they run. Is it me? Or am I forever doomed to pick the wrong guys?


Answer
it's a little of  both; not knowing more about you, it's hard to say why these guys appear interested only in short term pleasures...of course, alot of guys are like that to begin with, and it could be partially bad luck that you're finding them...i also don't know what attracts you, so i can't say if it needs fine tuning...all you can do is be patient, look closely at how you might be able to present yourself a bit differently (ask a close, objective, truthful friend for an unedited opinion), remain positive, live each day of your life, and use these experiences to learn and grow...az