Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 9/29/2007

Question
QUESTION: Let's say a guy gives you his phone number and you give him his, and he says he'll call you. Let's say that it's on Thursday night. How long should the woman wait for his call before she assumes he is not interested? By the next Thursday

ANSWER: Well I would kind of put it out of my mind if he doesn't call within a week or so, yes.  Then you can be pleasantly surprised if he should call you, but you aren't wasting your time!  

Best,
Susan Dunn
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Personal coaching on dating, Internet courses, and ebooks.  Susan is the author of DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN, www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html .  

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Dating can be confusing.  Give yourself the best chance, and get some coaching.

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QUESTION: It is very rare that men ask me out. In the last 5 years I have been asked out ONCE. So when the opportunity presents itself, I can't lose it. Unlike other women, I cannot just take the chance that he will call me.

Should I send him a text message saying hi? Or just call him and say hi, let's get together for lunch sometime, but do it in a friendly way?

ANSWER: You could give him one "bump" and see what happens.  He could've lost your phone number ...  Guys really get inundated with this these days, so go lightly.  If men aren't asking you out, you might benefit from some coaching.  

Best,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc

Personal coaching on dating, Internet courses, and ebooks.  Susan is the author of DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN, www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html .  

Email for information, sdunn@susandunn.cc .   

Dating can be confusing.  Give yourself the best chance, and get some coaching.

email for information, sdunn@susandunn.cc .




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QUESTION: Ok well he is a teacher tutoring many students in all subjects and staying at the parents home of one of the kids he is private teaching. Since we met on Thursday (two days ago) do you think I should wait until next Wednesday night to give him a ring? Or what's good day/way to do it. Ask him for lunch/dinner? which is better

what would you do...assuming you knew this one guy was a very good, seemingly sincere and classy man, and you pretty much NO other prospects...and wouldnt get another one for a while?

Answer
As you know, if you read this column regularly, I do not advocate calling men.  Practically under no circumstances.  No matter how desperate you are -- and why are you desperate??  If you have decided to call him, I would wait about a week and then call and chat.  Test the water.  Let him see your phone number, etc.  See if he picks up the ball.  I would not ask him out, but rather give him an opportunity to ask you out.  If you have decided you want to ask him out, I would keep it as light as possible, in other words, lunch, not dinner.  

I do not know when is a good time to call a guy, especially one who works that way.  Early evening?  It's hard to say.  If you catch them at their work, they are generally distracted and it's hard to change gears.  It works better when they call you, because they like to be in charge, and then they are prepared.  

Good luck!

Best,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc

Personal coaching on dating, Internet courses, and ebooks.  Susan is the author of DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN, www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html .  

Email for information, sdunn@susandunn.cc .   

Dating can be confusing.  Give yourself the best chance, and get some coaching.

email for information, sdunn@susandunn.cc .