Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/31/2007

Question
QUESTION: Hi,
I'm a 28 year old woman and am getting my M.D. and plan on going into a surgical residency to become a heart surgeon. Knowing that my life will be hectic, what is the type of man that you think will be best suited for a career woman like me? (I'm not a workaholic, but I know I will be working minimum 80 hours a week)

ANSWER: Hello Lina!

Believe it or not, the best guy for you is another busy person! The reason for this is that busy people learn how to schedule and prioritize their time.

We all have the same 168 hours each week to work with, yet EVERYONE feels they are "busy". In fact, many people don't know how to make good use of those hours to maximum benefit and waste huge amounts of time on things that aren't important. Busy people learn that they don't have this luxury and spend those hours getting value from the time they have.

Generally, other professionals and business people make a good choice for busy women.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"


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QUESTION: everyone tells me marrying another surgeon will be a suicide marriage filled with no sex and lots of screaming fights...

Answer
Hello again Lina!

Then I suggest you stop listening to "everyone". First of all, I didn't say to start dating surgeons specifically, but frankly that doesn't matter. I know of many physician couples that work great together. Their relationships are their sanctuaries. It all depends on the intent of the people in them.

Trust me Lina, I work more hours than you are going to. I run three different businesses, do radio and TV interviews every week, write articles, see clients answer tons of these questions and I still have a rich, active social and dating life! It's not the person, it's how the person manages their time and the interests they have - and pursue.

You'll find people in all walks of life that don't make time for what's important to them. Is this sort of person interesting to you? I doubt it. If not, don't pursue them! Find people that DO make good use of their time and that value you and yours.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
http://beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"