Expert: Azure - 10/8/2002

Question
Three weeks ago I met this really hot guy while I was working at a cocktail lounge, through this lady that I work with. We hit it off from the start she invited us over for a drink at her apartment. when we got there we had decided to go to a nieghborhood bar (just the 2 of us) so that we could talk in privacy. We had an awesome conversation. he was using the word us alot. I knew he was going to ask me for my number, and he did. he called me 15 minutes after we left the bar saying that it was nice to meeting me and that he wasn't going to go out that night but was glad b/c he got to meet me, and that he only ended up going to that lady's apartment b/c I said I was going. He called me the next day and invited me to come visit him at the restaurant he works at. unfortunately I had to babysit my niece that night and told him if i could see him at work another night he seemed very understanding. I returned his message he asked me what time i was getting off of work I told him 10 and he said that he would give me a call around ten. he never did and that was the last I heard of him. I don't know what happend it seemed like it was going somewhere and all of a sudden he stopped calling. I felt that since he was the one who said that he was going to cal me that I should wait for him to call I don't understand what went wrong we talked for 4 days. Did i do something wrong? please email me back with a reply'
thanks,
Ana

Answer
i suppose if you were idealistic you could think he lost your number, but it's doubtful...under the circumstances, it would be okay to call and ask him what happened if you had a way of doing so, but you need to realize the chances of ever getting the REAL answer to your question as to his silence are dim...guys are notorious for saying things they don't mean, or not following through on what they say they'll do...adding insult to injury, even if you wind up talking again, you still probably won't get a straight answer...the best thing to do is accept the fact that for WHATEVER reason, he's chosen not to pursue it, consider the reason unimportant, stop wondering about it, and move on with the rest of your life, hopefully with more considerate people...az