Expert: Azure - 1/28/2004

Question
I am interested, like, this one guy but I dont know if he feels the same way about me. I known him for about a year in half. and it seems that the more we get to know each other the more we are attracted to each other. When we first met, it was very formal, work related.  But with time, I feel like the attraction is more on his part. We started by meeting, then he asked me some personal questions. Then we worked together and I was awarded some commision, the commision was supposed to be for $100 but he gave me $150. Then he asked my cousins about me and my personal life. He told her that he thought I was with his brother. Well my cousin assured him that I had no boyfriend and I was not with his brother. Everytime I see him, he always looks at me but turns away when I look at him. and lately he has been more obivous, he smiles and flirts more with me. But what I don't understand is why he doesnt ask me out. I am dying for him to ask me out. Should I ask him what he feels or should I just wait for him to make a move. Sometimes I think he is intimidated by me. Oh, and one time he initialed a letter addressed to me with his last name initials, what is up with that?
I don't want to look like a fool if I ask him out and he declines me. I have been waiting for about 3 months for him to make a move and I am becoming worry and I feel like I should just let it go. Help!

Answer
well your choices are keep waiting, talk to him, or forget it...i wouldn't think you had much to lose by asking him if he wants to do something real casual, like just get a coffee sometime...hopefully after breaking the ice with that, he'll take the initiative to ask you out on a real date...if not, just go by your feeling/impulse at the time..you could give him your number and suggest he call sometime, or you could just forget it and look for someone more responsive...either approach would be okay; just go by your instinct at that moment...az