Expert: Azure - 10/31/2005

Question
I have met a very nice man in the internet and before, I dont want to be in love in the net because I know that there are no real people in the internet but I was wrong I fell in love with a man whom I haven't met. At first he was excited to answer all my private message to him and even calls me even if he knew that it will cost him too much and I admit that I fell in love of that because all I know is that he would not waste money for me if he is not that interested. But there are times that I feel neglected because he doesnt want to private message me and he will reason out that he is too busy for his work and that he is tired. He even told me that He is attracted to me but I am too far away and he likes me but he is not ready to be in a serious relationship. Do you think he is in love but only afraid to show his feelings towards me? Is it proper to tell him that I love him too? I'm afraid that he will be frustrated when I will be the first one to do the move. I am afraid that he will no longer talk to me when i do this. He is a very sensitive person. BUt I really love him. Please HELP!

Answer
you should have trusted your original instincts about "no real people", so you wouldn't have trapped yourself in this addictive fantasy; this is the stuff that preys upon insecure, emotionally needy types, then shatters their dreams when grim reality, as you're seeing, enters the picture; not only shouldn't you tell him of this "love", you should stop emailing, turn off the computer, and meet/date REAL people near you that you can see, touch, observe, do things with...life is too short to waste on hopes and dreams that never arrive; wake up and get out of this abyss NOW..