Expert: Azure - 7/18/2006

Question
I am a 55 yr-old black and indian heritage female. I am 5'9", very attractive, very fit, excellent health, great personality and men are always looking at me. I walk tall with confidence. Some men have told me I'm intimidating. I don't know what to do about that. Just last week, I got carded in the grocery store and the week before that a 30 yr old man asked if he was too young for me to date. After telling him that I have a daughter his age, he said "so you must be 40".  So you see, I have been blessed, but I think mostly due to lots of exercise and good eating.  My question is, I live in the Newport News or Norfolk, Va. area where there's such a heavy concentration of military people here. People come, people go....I don't work around a lot of men (93% female).  I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO GO OR TO PLACE MYSELF TO FIND SINGLE MEN. How do you just GO out and MEET men? People say it like... just snapping your finger. It's not that easy, or is it? I've dabbled in online dating, and still am but I would like to also look locally. I'm a fantastic lady and have a lot to give, but where are the men? I get more flirting from young guys than older men.  Maybe because their testosterone motivates them, or are all the older men taken?   What suggestions do you have.  I need help help help. Thanks, Paula

Answer
the online stuff is one option; with a good picture, you should get hundreds to choose from; locally, try getting involved in groups that share a common interest you either feel similarly about or would like to try; examples, a bowling league, book club, a class, etc; it could be just a case of being more proactive--if interested in dating coach services, let me know..ps..without knowing ALOT more about you, it's not feasible to attempt a more detailed, customized answer--hence the coach suggestion...ps i'm a "he"..