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How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Questions Answered by Expert Dr. Dennis W. Neder
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Is it ok to message someone you haven't really met? | 1/17/2012 |
| Q: There was a cute guy at a volunteer meeting at my church last Sunday. We didn't really talk, but ... A: It's not "weird" to message him. It'd be "weird" to stalk him however. You have tons of context ... | |
| A Flirt Without Follow Through | 1/15/2012 |
| Q: I have feelings for a man that I know from work. We work for two separate companies but in the same ... A: Here's where this is going: nowhere. Here's what happened: yes, he was very interested in you. He ... | |
| looks but nothing else | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: My name is Fabi. I am separated and have two kids. I am 37 years old. I work in a hospital and there ... A: While there might be some kind of attraction, I'm not sure it's really much to go on. You don't even ... | |
| I like him so much-he has a gf | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I read about you and I am interested in hearing your opinion on my situation. I am ... A: It's a little different for men and women. I'd never advise a man to ask a woman out via email, but ... | |
| I like him so much-he has a gf | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I read about you and I am interested in hearing your opinion on my situation. I am ... A: No, your email isn't immature at all. This is the sort of problem that everyone faces sometime in ... | |
| what do you make out of this? | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: Where can I find a financially stable committed guy? I live in NY and I'm 28 years old. My love life ... A: Here on the "left coast", there's a woman that gives a seminar, "How to Marry a Millionaire". As you ... | |
| Tired of being single | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 36 year old woman who has been single for 3 years and I'm tired of it. I feel ... A: Yes, I avoided those questions because they're too large for this forum. You can see what's involved ... | |
| Tired of being single | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 36 year old woman who has been single for 3 years and I'm tired of it. I feel ... A: I really love it when I get this question. It's not that I'm happy for your pain and loneliness. Far ... | |
| Swallowing dissatisfaction for a long time now | 7/8/2011 |
| Q: Nader, Before I begin, I would like to thank you for taking the time out for me, especially since ... A: I like to think of relationships like ladders rather than roads. The idea is that you (hopefully) ... | |
| Swallowing dissatisfaction for a long time now | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: Nader, Before I begin, I would like to thank you for taking the time out for me, especially since ... A: First of all, I think you've made some very serious mistakes here. You had a chance with him that ... | |
| New relationship | 7/1/2011 |
| Q: I've recently entered a new relationship, it's been 2 months. He is 10 years older than me. I'm 24 ... A: Ah! The chase question. I get this one at least 3-4 times a week. Let me give you another name for ... | |
| Was he hinting at something? | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a man, we are both 29, and on our first date, he looked at me and said "your ... A: I can't possibly know specifically what he's insecure about. YOU had the date with him - not me. You ... | |
| Was he hinting at something? | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a man, we are both 29, and on our first date, he looked at me and said "your ... A: Yes. He's not only hinting, he's flat-out telling you that he's insecure. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| .......:X What should I tell my daughter???? | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: Neder, It may be none of my business, but when my thirteen-year-old daughter tells me that she ... A: I'm also an advocate for abused people - men AND women and have worked with them in many capacities; ... | |
| Should I let it be? | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: Last summer I met a boy in drama camp. I have very strong emotions towards him. I can hardly take my ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you for asking this question! Do you have any idea how few girls ... | |
| I like this guy and I'm too shy... | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I really like this guy named Austin but I'm too shy to say hi. My friends think that I should get ... A: Here's the reality: if you do nothing, it's almost a given that nothing will happen. Is that what ... | |
| Trying to get the guy I'm growing up with to like me. | 4/29/2011 |
| Q: I've known this guy since sixth grade and it's been a while. We're in ninth grade, soon to be ... A: I know. It gets really confusing when you go online trying to get some help. There are so many ... | |
| Looking For Love | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old woman. I have dated very little in my life. Most of the sexual experience I have ... A: I'll address your last point first. If your faith harms you, I absolutely WILL NOT "respect it". ... | |
| why do i attract young men | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a recently single 24 (turning 25) year old women. I am working in my studied career, and have ... A: Not knowing how you look or how you dress, it's impossible for me to comment on either of those ... | |
| what happened? | 4/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Hey Nicolette! Actually, I'm writing a new book on exactly this - and how to actually be successful ... | |
| what happened? | 4/7/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Next indeed!!!! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO/Executive Producer ... | |
| what happened? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: My "instinct"? Just that he's kidding and having fun. I wouldn't read anything into it. This is yet ... | |
| ex | 4/2/2011 |
| Q: My ex has been in my mind for over a year now but I've been trying to move on as nothing has ... A: Hey Tamara! First of all, what do you want here? Do you really want to be his friend or are you ... | |
| how to attract a shy guy | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: I would like a male opinion and advice. At university there's a grad student which helps out me and ... A: I generally recommend that you use Facebook as a last resort. Unfortunately, it's the only resort ... | |
| hey | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: well, this is kind of weird haha sorry but umm i go to school with this guy i like him a lot and ... A: DO NOT try to impress him! All you'll wind up doing is looking like you're working too hard. ... | |
| How to forget him?? | 3/13/2011 |
| Q: my problem is that i love someone who is in my class. i think of him all the time for about two ... A: No, it's not that you "can't forget him", it's that you "won't forget him". You don't have a ... | |
| Man Of My Dreams | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: Hey theres this guy I grew up with. He's a football player, tall, sensitive and sweet. I have always ... A: You're 280 what? Pounds? You've said it yourself - this is YOUR insecurity. You don't get to decide ... | |
| Flirting, long distance? | 3/2/2011 |
| Q: I have a summer job that I just started this past summer. I met an amazing guy while working there, ... A: First of all, you need to know this: long-distance relationships ("LDR's") simply never work out. ... | |
| Seeking a deep relationship | 2/26/2011 |
| Q: My situation might seem a bit more unique and unusual from others, so if you are not well-trained in ... A: Hey Diamond! I'm not going to waste my time reading or answering anything here. You live in a world ... | |
| Apathetic or Out of Luck? | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: First of all, I totally appreciate your occasionally brutal honesty. Few people are brave enough to ... A: Hey, hey YOU, Natalie! According to your original post, I don't think you have the sort of goals ... | |
| Apathetic or Out of Luck? | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: First of all, I totally appreciate your occasionally brutal honesty. Few people are brave enough to ... A: Oh, you poor, poor girl. NEVER offer me an open opportunity to be brutally honest! I'll just accept ... | |
| Clarification | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: From reading some of your other answers you say that a girl should first think about what she wants ... A: Your "target audience" are the people you are attracted to that you want to have something with - ... | |
| My friend's brother | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old. I'm desperately in love with my friend's brother. He has been showing signs that ... A: Absolutely you can (and should!) send him a message! If you try to keep things hidden, he's going to ... | |
| How to find a man | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 22 year old recent college grad, and I've just moved to a new state for my first real "job". ... A: Congratulations on your graduation and new job. You want advice about meeting guys? Well, I have a ... | |
| URGENT | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I hope you are happy because what you have said hurt my feelings I only make a list because I am ... A: Unfortunately, if you don't copy the previous message(s) I have absolutely no idea what you've asked ... | |
| Are Looks everything when it comes to dating? | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a young latina girl short about 5,2 in a half. I am in my mid twenties and been losing weight ... A: First of all, you're going to need to expand your checklist. Part of the problem is that you're ... | |
| what i do? | 1/19/2011 |
| Q: i am working in a college as lecturer since last 4 months.in my department my coworker lecturer is ... A: I'm fully aware of arranged marriages. Frankly, I think they are outdated. Unfortunately, I'm not ... | |
| what could happen | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: I met a man at my college that I am interested in. At first when I saw him I really did not feel any ... A: When guys are interested in girls, they will usually initiate contact - which he did. They'll tell ... | |
| a man's mind | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I've met a gorgeous guy, he's a friend of a friend of mine. I saw him a couple of times but we never ... A: Herein lies the problem with trying to use technology to build something between you and anyone ... | |
| Relationship woes... | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: Dennis I been having relationship woes. I cant seem to find a guy my parents divorced when I was ... A: Wait a minute here. There's absolutely a disconnect I'm not getting. If you've never been on a date, ... | |
| College Romance... Hopefully | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: :D First off, I just want to say thanks so much for taking the time to read this and volunteer to be ... A: What do I think you should about what? Do I think you should come back after Christmas and look ... | |
| To date or not to date? | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm trying to figure out if it's a good idea to date my friend Mike or not, and secondly I'm trying ... A: First of all, I'm very, very proud of you for coming to grips with all of this! You've pushed past ... | |
| confused over his hot and cold actions | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: i met this awesome guy in a seminar. we clicked instantly. between the 2 weeks of knowing him, we Im ... A: Looking desperate? How often do I hear this ridiculous fear from women? (Answer: almost every day!) ... | |
| Attracted to my mum's doctor.. | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: . Was really glad to have chance upon your website on women in relationship stuff..yea i needed ... A: Ok, if you don't want to back him something, get him a nice thank you card then. There are 1001 ways ... | |
| Attracted to my mum's doctor.. | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: . Was really glad to have chance upon your website on women in relationship stuff..yea i needed ... A: Let's be clear here, this isn't love - you don't even really know this guy. He just made an ... | |
| Flirting | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: I’m 20 and really bad at flirting. I am a pretty friendly person and get along with just about ... A: Yes, I think I understand what you're asking me here. Unfortunately, I think you're going after the ... | |
| Why he behave differently? | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: Neder I have read your answers to other people very carefully and I assume you can see my situation ... A: Be careful what you assume! ;) I'm sorry to tell you this, but this "relationship" is a total ... | |
| love life | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: i was with this boy for a bit when i stupidly let him go, i still like him and he still likes me (i ... A: If you dumped him, then it's you that has to put this back together. Frankie, relationships are ... | |
| we are like so the situation is stuck | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: I am a girl of 22 and I have a crush on a boy, “A”, studying with me at university. The first year ... A: If you've never made a first move on a guy, what a great chance to learn a new skill! I'm very proud ... | |
| we are like so the situation is stuck | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: I am a girl of 22 and I have a crush on a boy, “A”, studying with me at university. The first year ... A: Wow...this is all so clandestine! "G", "A", "007"! It feels like a crime drama where "... all the ... | |
| Asking A Guy Out | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: There is a really cute guy that I've recently become friends with in one of my classes. He also ... A: Excellent Whitney! I'm very proud of you for thinking about taking the first step. So many of your ... | |
| In a bind and don't know what to do | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: There's this man that I am absolutely in love with. No doubt in my mind. Only problem is, I do not ... A: You're hoping to use far-too-subtle signals to gain an absolute answer. The problem here is that ... | |
| Are looks everything? | 9/13/2010 |
| Q: I have always been a shy girl and admittedly very self conscious of the way I look. There have been ... A: Here's the problem with thisit makes assumptions about things in a black/white way. The reality is ... | |
| Giving a man your phone number | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: I worked with someone for a week, whom i found to be attractive and at the end of the week I decided ... A: Hey Kattie! NEXT!!!! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| Giving a man your phone number | 8/25/2010 |
| Q: I worked with someone for a week, whom i found to be attractive and at the end of the week I decided ... A: I hope he calls too. Frankly, he'd be an idiot not to! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Giving a man your phone number | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I worked with someone for a week, whom i found to be attractive and at the end of the week I decided ... A: Overstepped? Absolutely not! If he wanted to contact you, how in the hell else could he do it? This ... | |
| Feeling blocked.... | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: Wondering if you might be able to help...been feeling a little frustrated with the dating scene ... A: First of all, how else can you feel about the online thing other than blocked? How else can things ... | |
| How much is too much? | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: I met a great guy a week ago. We were both volunteering at an empowerment camp and we were together ... A: I'm going to answer your question, but first, I want you to consider what this really (potentially?) ... | |
| women asking men out | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: In general, should women ask men out - or does this backfire? A: In general, AND in specific: women SHOULD ask men out. The reality is that this rarely backfires, ... | |
| Hiding tattoos | 8/18/2010 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, I have large tattoos on both of my forearms and I go to college (I’m a guy). I always ... A: Which girls? Every girl is different. It's not possible to say that all or any particular ones will ... | |
| Guy dilemma still... | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: I am totally still into the guy! I sent him a voice message this time because he didn't pick up and ... A: First of all, you're assuming I remember what we've talked about in the past. I'm sorry to say, I ... | |
| Dilemma about a guy... | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: This guy I haven't seen since high school found me on Facebook and was thrilled when he did because ... A: Hey Laura! So now you're telling me that he's not the guy you're interested in because of a silly ... | |
| Dilemma about a guy... | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: This guy I haven't seen since high school found me on Facebook and was thrilled when he did because ... A: Every time you make these dumb mistakes, every time you lose the few little opportunities you might ... | |
| Dilemma about a guy... | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: This guy I haven't seen since high school found me on Facebook and was thrilled when he did because ... A: Frankly, I think you SHOULD show up at his party. This texting crap is killing off anything you ... | |
| me. | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: So... I was reading an earlier answer of yours in which you said guys like it when you show a lot ... A: Maybe. Maybe not. I don't know these people you're talking about. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| me. | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: So... I was reading an earlier answer of yours in which you said guys like it when you show a lot ... A: Great question but not easy to answer! Unfortunately, the vast majority of girls show far, far too ... | |
| I am in love with a commitment phobic man. | 7/2/2010 |
| Q: I met him two years ago and he is the man of my dreams. I love him for who he is and we have a ... A: Holy crap Alison! Did you just spew out an entire stream-of-consciousness here - all over me??? ... | |
| Why do guys do this? | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: I've had a crush on this guy for two years and we always used to make eye contact. His friends used ... A: Oh...I get it. You think I can read this guy's mind! Sorry, that's not a skill I've mastered - yet. ... | |
| internet chatting | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: Please tell me how to avoid losers and jerks in the internet chat.. i would like to met a good ... A: Aha! You see, that's exactly the point - you can't! You just have to take the same risks everyone ... | |
| how to attract ex-boyfriend | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: )i am 17years old...i love my ex-boyfriend...now we have very close relationship...we are very good ... A: Wait a minute. Don't you think that it would have been better to let me know these facts in the ... | |
| how to attract ex-boyfriend | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: )i am 17years old...i love my ex-boyfriend...now we have very close relationship...we are very good ... A: Welcome to friendship with ex's! Herein lies the biggest problem: since you're a close "friend", ... | |
| Living Single | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I've been single my whole life. I am open to relationships, I have a great self image and a great ... A: Have all of this means nothing if you don't know how to get in and play the rest of the game! ... | |
| Shyness and attraction | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: I am a single mum (37 next week), of two boys. I have been on my own for 8 years and feel that I ... A: Practice my dear. Practice. Here's the problem: you're blowing targets out of the water (like the ... | |
| Hurtful relationship with smart guy. | 5/31/2010 |
| Q: I have several issues mixed up but will try my best to be clear and concise.I married at the age of ... A: Absolutely he's stringing you along. He knows damn well what you want and he knows that he has total ... | |
| Hurtful relationship with smart guy. | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I have several issues mixed up but will try my best to be clear and concise.I married at the age of ... A: Hell Feeha! You didn't really ask me a question here, so I'm going to try to guess what it is that ... | |
| is my current boyfriend my soulmate? | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: ive been with my current boyfriend for a little over ayear and we both are having difficulties in ... A: Not if you don't find out what's really causing all this fighting. After a while being together and ... | |
| Dating | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: first of all thank you for your help! I am single and I have essentially been single for 2 years. I ... A: It seems that the single common denominator in all of this is you. Yes, I can tell you very likely ... | |
| my dream man | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 6 months broke upwith me last week,and i have been down,but, there is this guy that ... A: Well, one of you is going to have to break the ice. It doesn't appear as though he's going to do it ... | |
| great at sex | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: You have said that very few women in this world are good in bed. Less than 15%. Can you explain what ... A: Great question! In fact, it's all of these things. Enthusiasm, attitude and skill are the major ... | |
| Interested or not? | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I'm 38 and been crazy for a 44 year old man for over 2 yrs. I fell for him pretty quickly and slept ... A: Why shouldn't you have to persuade a man to be with you? Do you think that your dazzling smile, ... | |
| Interested or not? | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm 38 and been crazy for a 44 year old man for over 2 yrs. I fell for him pretty quickly and slept ... A: I agree with you: I see nothing wrong with sleeping with someone on the second date, or the first or ... | |
| Why was he so interested? | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: I went to the mall on Friday at 8 pm and I met this guy at one of those spine assessment booth ... A: Wait a minute. You didn't get his blood type or his mother's maiden name? What's the world coming ... | |
| I have two questions! | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: ), I have two questions, one has to do with the topic in your expertise and i don't really know how ... A: I have two answers! I sure hope they're to your questions! #1 About what? #2 I don't know why he ... | |
| sex and marriage | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: After marriage, what is a healthy amount of sex for a wife and husband? Because of busy schedules ... A: In cultures where this is practiced, it's a combination of many things including misunderstanding ... | |
| sex and marriage | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: After marriage, what is a healthy amount of sex for a wife and husband? Because of busy schedules ... A: You've asked a number of questions here. Let me address them all: First of all, sex and romance are ... | |
| men are more monogamous than you may think | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: Men are not monogamous creatures at heart...but I think men are a lot more faithful than they're ... A: As I said before, human sexuality is extremely rich and complicated. It's impossible to draw any ... | |
| Am I missing something? | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I am a 24 almost 25 year old young woman who has pretty much been single for 3 years. I've been in ... A: Yes, you also hear so-called "dating experts" telling women all sorts of dumb things! I've even seen ... | |
| men are more monogamous than you may think | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: Men are not monogamous creatures at heart...but I think men are a lot more faithful than they're ... A: Being monogamous and being faithful are two, totally different things. One is a nature-borne thing ... | |
| Am I missing something? | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I am a 24 almost 25 year old young woman who has pretty much been single for 3 years. I've been in ... A: I feel as though you're ready too! That's something of a long "dry spell". You're also right about ... | |
| Bad luck at dating | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: I'm 35 and have been single for almost two years. I've never been married and I have no children. ... A: You've discovered what I tell people all the time: on-line dating is a great way to waste lots of ... | |
| Ugly and dating | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: (I posted this to another person but didnt get a response, I guess this is not a easy thing to ... A: In other words: maximize your looks to the best of your ability, but after you've done that, put it ... | |
| Ugly and dating | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: (I posted this to another person but didnt get a response, I guess this is not a easy thing to ... A: Hmmm...maybe we need to talk about YOUR self-esteem?? First of all, your looks do have something to ... | |
| Mature relationships | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I was dating a man for almost 6 months and about 3 months into the relationship he was ... A: My problem with this story is that you seem more concerned with coming across "needy" or "lonely" ... | |
| Mature relationships | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I was dating a man for almost 6 months and about 3 months into the relationship he was ... A: That's actually a brilliant rule about breakups if you want to stay broken up. Be clear about this: ... | |
| women's masturbation questions | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 29 year old woman (straight) and I haven't had a boyfriend for a looooooong time... certainly ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you. This sort of response is actually based on tons of work you ... | |
| men in general | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: Hola Dr Dennis: Im chilean and my english is not very good so please be patient. I found this page ... A: Hola Maritza! It's impossible to say that there is one attitude that all men like. Each person is ... | |
| Sport/Gym Clubs | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: What clubs do you think are a good choice of joining up with in order to meet young and attractive ... A: Yoga clubs are actually excellent places to meet girls. You'll have about a 10:1 female to male ... | |
| I keep attracting the wrong man!!! Why | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I've had 3 children to 3 different men, all of whom were violent, psychologically abusive or ... A: As I said before, you're looking for a man to come in an fix all these issues for you. The problem ... | |
| I keep attracting the wrong man!!! Why | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I've had 3 children to 3 different men, all of whom were violent, psychologically abusive or ... A: First of all, you've hit the nail on the head, so to speak. The common denominator in all 3 of these ... | |
| advice | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: helo Dr Denis. I dont know if you recall me, but i,m grace. I,m a college sophmore in fashion school ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you! Helping people in this way is a really great thing to be doing ... | |
| Troubles | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old college student and I just can't seem to attract any guys. I'm not hideous and, ... A: I constantly see great women that shoot themselves in the foot with guys. They go out in "girl ... | |
| Is this the game? | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, Please help me with your opinion and advice. I’ve met this guy on dating site. I sent him ... A: Wow - you HAVE been reading, haven't you! ;) The simple answer to your first question is no - ... | |
| attracting the right guy | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: how are you doing. my name is grace. I,m 21 year-old female girl from NYC. (fashion designer) I,m ... A: Is this a dating question or a personal ad? ;) You actually have a number of different questions ... | |
| hi | 12/12/2009 |
| Q: if a guy holds ur hand during a violent movie and says he is not used to such movies. is he lying so ... A: I don't know this guy and I haven't seen the movie, so I can't tell you. What in the hell do you ... | |
| meeting guys in night clubs. | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: i,m 21 year old college student in nyc. I,m outgoing and like to have fun but at thesame time im ... A: If you go to clubs where this is going on, you're going to find that "most guys" are more interested ... | |
| Am I too late? | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: I SO hope you can help me. I met this guy about 3 years ago while i was on vacation with my friends. ... A: I SO hope I can too! ;) You didn't mention how far away you two still are from each other and ... | |
| How to attrack him | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: There's a guy that I have been "talking to" for almost a year now. He sees me as a friend with ... A: Let's start by getting the mistakes most girls make out of the way. Most girls (that frankly, don't ... | |
| could you please help me figure this out.. | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm Rose. I'm 21 and a Taurus. =) My friends often describe me as: Smart, Goofy, silly, cute, fun, ... A: Yes; you're right about it only being in a woman's world that personality is king (queen?) The good ... | |
| Relationship advice | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis W. Neder, My name is Rachel and I just recently became involved with a fellow six ... A: So, what are you waiting for with your boyfriend? For him to find some other woman that WILL give ... | |
| Relationship advice | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis W. Neder, My name is Rachel and I just recently became involved with a fellow six ... A: You, my dear, are fucking awesome for even asking this question! Do you know how many women simply ... | |
| how do i get him to talk to me | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I wanna give some background on my question here. So i have a best friend and just found out a few ... A: Start dating him! Ok, you've gotten the sex out of the way. That's actually a very good thing in ... | |
| Mixed Signals From Him! | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: -) I have a very interesting problem going on with my bestfriend, who is also my biggest crush! He ... A: You should do exactly what you're doing now. You're dating. Who cares what he or anyone else decides ... | |
| Love or sex | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: "I gotta know this guy through facebook. We chatted for a quite a while like few weeks, exchanged ... A: Yes, you need to meet him in person, but the new problem is that you're looking for the sure thing. ... | |
| love | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: helo. how are you. my name is grace, i,m a college sophmore(fashion student) i,m 18 going on 19 ... A: Yes, I have a ton of ideas for you. Obviously, I can't go into them all right here via messaging - ... | |
| Love or sex | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: "I gotta know this guy through facebook. We chatted for a quite a while like few weeks, exchanged ... A: From all this messaging - you can't. You two are trying to build a relationship via texting and ... | |
| How do I attract the man of my dreams online | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: Last January I lost my job. Recently I had to move across the US, from city suburbs in the West to ... A: If you're trying to attract men through the internet, you're just going to have to take what comes. ... | |
| Does he just see me as a sister? | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: I guy told me i'm like his sister, does that mean we could never date and he just sees me as his ... A: I don't know this guy and I don't read minds. I can't possibly tell you what he means by this! Maybe ... | |
| The perfect date... What went wrong? | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: In May, I was introduced to someone through a coworker. He's a firefighter, who wants to advance ... A: Of course there's something could have done to make this up to him. The problem is that you've ... | |
| The perfect date... What went wrong? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: In May, I was introduced to someone through a coworker. He's a firefighter, who wants to advance ... A: This sounds like a case where you did almost everything right and for some reason it just didn't ... | |
| Should women approach men? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I have conflicting thoughts about whether or not it is okay for a female to initiate the ... A: First off, I'm very proud of you for making the decision that you're not simply going to wait by the ... | |
| Should women approach men? | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: I have conflicting thoughts about whether or not it is okay for a female to initiate the ... A: Yes, I understand that you're confused. You have your sisters to thank for that. Men have never been ... | |
| how to get my ex back | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: hey its this guy in ma school. we were into a relationship for a month. but due to some problems we ... A: If you remain as friends, that's all you'll ever be. If you want him to miss you, you're going to ... | |
| how to get my ex back | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: hey its this guy in ma school. we were into a relationship for a month. but due to some problems we ... A: You definitely DO NOT want to be his friend here! You want something more and if you're always ... | |
| how to firt with a man long distance | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: we live 13 hours away, he is recently devoriced and has said to me he is dating... we met on a ... A: You don't have to flirt to see if you're wasting your time - you ARE wasting your time. Vettie, ... | |
| What Should I Do Next?! | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: Hey! Well I'm having a problem. For some reason, I am starting to like this guy that I have liked ... A: Well, always! If you simply react to things, you're never going to get the best a situation has to ... | |
| What Should I Do Next?! | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: Hey! Well I'm having a problem. For some reason, I am starting to like this guy that I have liked ... A: If you haven't really thought about him for awhile and are only now doing so, what's probably ... | |
| Nervous to be single again | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I just went through my first breakup (I’m 19). It sucks, but I know it’s for the best. The thing ... A: What changes to make? Here's a good list to start: 1) Relationship goals. Have you ever sat down to ... | |
| Nervous to be single again | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I just went through my first breakup (I’m 19). It sucks, but I know it’s for the best. The thing ... A: Let me tell you a little story. When I was in Jr. High School, there was this skinny, mousy girl in ... | |
| a question | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to know why would a male friend tell you not to worry about it if you asked him why he ... A: Hey Joann! Yes, you're probably right. I think there's a lesson in there somewhere. Best ... | |
| a question | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to know why would a male friend tell you not to worry about it if you asked him why he ... A: If you wanted to know what it means, then why did you lie to him? If you're quick about it, no, ... | |
| a question | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to know why would a male friend tell you not to worry about it if you asked him why he ... A: ...and I want to know something too: why do you think I can read someone else's mind? I have no idea ... | |
| a vital question | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: I am a university student from Egypt. I am writing to you because I really do need your advice. My ... A: Actually, your English is better than many native-speakers! It's sure better than my Egyptian! ... | |
| dating/going out | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: My question is I am in my mid forties and I want to know how do you find a boyfriend these days, I ... A: Hey Joann! Ok, I'm "back". Now what? You didn't ask me anything. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| dating/going out | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: My question is I am in my mid forties and I want to know how do you find a boyfriend these days, I ... A: I'm afraid I don't read minds in order to tell you what happened with this guy. If you want to know, ... | |
| dating/going out | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: My question is I am in my mid forties and I want to know how do you find a boyfriend these days, I ... A: First of all, you probably know how much I plead with people to avoid long-distance relationships. ... | |
| looks & love | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: i wanted to ask 2 questions. first- i wanted to ask that how much r looks important to guys when ... A: 1) Very. A woman's looks are her "currency" in relationships. That doesn't mean that other things ... | |
| Getting him back | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: I moved to the dominican republic a year ago and re-encountered myself with a guy i had met about 4 ... A: Confused? You and me both. What is it you want to know? It doesn't seem as though this is going to ... | |
| I now feel SUPER DESPERATE! | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: After taking your advice, I decided to just roll with it, and have completely thrown the "rule" idea ... A: No, I haven't seen that movie but I've heard of it. I also understand how you feel - yes it is ... | |
| I now feel SUPER DESPERATE! | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: After taking your advice, I decided to just roll with it, and have completely thrown the "rule" idea ... A: I understand. All that feminine wiring and misinformation just wants to kick in and make you feel ... | |
| Mr. How Do I Know Mr. Right? | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been in two relationships (short term approx. 6 months each) but I knew both of them were not ... A: You can thank your game-playing sisters for a lot of this pushiness you're finding from guys. These ... | |
| am i acting too desperate? | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: Ive recently been talking to a guy (we havent met yet) my friend set us up. Its been a month, he ... A: Hey Yasmine! You have an excellent plan! Go make it work! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| am i acting too desperate? | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: Ive recently been talking to a guy (we havent met yet) my friend set us up. Its been a month, he ... A: This answer makes you "happy"? Maybe you didn't understand it fully?? ;) This "Susan" you spoke ... | |
| am i acting too desperate? | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: Ive recently been talking to a guy (we havent met yet) my friend set us up. Its been a month, he ... A: You girls and your silly fears of looking desperate! No, it doesn't look desperate to guys at all. ... | |
| bitchy women get all the men? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: There is a fat ugly girl at my school, who is very loud, obnoxious, mean, and very bitchy. She is ... A: Actually, you're not too far off here. Here's what she knows that most women don't: 1) She knows ... | |
| how to get them | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: helo, my name is grace, i,m 19 years old, its my second year in college. i,m very classy, not ... A: Actually, this is a great question! I see women all the time that simply think that "...guys should ... | |
| bitchy women get all the men? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: There is a fat ugly girl at my school, who is very loud, obnoxious, mean, and very bitchy. She is ... A: Many times this sort of boldness is there to mask other insecurities. However, the boldness itself ... | |
| Finding Mr. Right | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I like your comment that you shouldn't be waiting to meet Mr. Right. Hopefully you can help ... A: I fully understand how you feel about approaching men. Welcome to our worlds! This is what we have ... | |
| Finding Mr. Right | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I like your comment that you shouldn't be waiting to meet Mr. Right. Hopefully you can help ... A: 1) Here's the reality: while the entire "cougar" concept is alive and well, it's not reality. It's ... | |
| crush | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: i have a huge crush on a guy in my college ,i realy like him and i some how feel that even he likes ... A: Why do you want to take things this far to tell him how you feel about him? Why not simply break the ... | |
| life...oh life | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: Two questions. 1. The girls that give sex up front are getting all the guys...but they don't keep ... A: 1) I don't know your partner, so it's hard to say. Investment comes in many forms from simply ... | |
| re | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, a couple questions. I'm sorry if these are exhausting. 1. How come in the old days, women ... A: 1) I have no reliable statistics on this, but I'll bet it's not different from any other industry. ... | |
| How to Attract a Potential Ladies Man | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I met this amazing guy that I'm incredibly attracted to! He's a freshman in college and Im ... A: Yes, "hanging out" means being together in a casual way - no pressure. Too many people are doing ... | |
| How to Attract a Potential Ladies Man | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I met this amazing guy that I'm incredibly attracted to! He's a freshman in college and Im ... A: You think this guy is a "lady's man"??? I don't think you know what that is. If it were true, he'd ... | |
| found him now what????? | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: I think the perfect man is my close friend. He is 12 yrs older and has no kids...I have 2. He ... A: Your situation is very different from the usual long-distance situation since 1/2 the time, he's ... | |
| emo love... | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: I am seventeen years old. I like this guy named Mark. He is so cute and I like his personality but I ... A: Why are you giving yourself all these limitations? You feel that you're not as witty as other people ... | |
| Does he like me? What do I do? | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I am at school and the guy i like is 2 years older than me. I really like him and he is perfect for ... A: Unfortunately, I have no idea if he likes you or not. Doing this friendship thing however is working ... | |
| questions | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Needer. I have a couple of different questions. I've been reading through some of your ... A: What incredibly great questions these are! I thank you for asking them! More important, these are ... | |
| article | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: Take a moment to read the article and the comments written below it. (It's fairly short) ... A: What do you want me to say? Yes, they are bad, bad people; intent on maxing out all your credit ... | |
| should I pursue? | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I met an incredibly handsome ... A: Yo! Doreen! No, it's not part of the game. Maybe it's just you. I don't think they're nuts however ... | |
| article | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: Take a moment to read the article and the comments written below it. (It's fairly short) ... A: Sorry, I don't have time to go through the internet and read articles. Yes, there's every bit of a ... | |
| should I pursue? | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I met an incredibly handsome ... A: Hey Doreen! Although, it seems to be working. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| should I pursue? | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I met an incredibly handsome ... A: Sorry, I thought I made that clear. Yes, I think you'd be stupid to pursue this guy unless you want ... | |
| Is it possible? | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I LOVE how you answer questions its remarkable! You ask others and they say things like just be your ... A: Well, let's see if you LOVE how I answer your question or not! Your key to get a conversation going ... | |
| How do i attract this guy that takes the same bus as me?? | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: !! So, i kinda have this huge crush on this guy who waits for the same bus as i am at the same bus ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you (as a girl) for being willing to make the first move. So few ... | |
| interested in a friend...help | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: So there is a rather long story behind all this, but the shortened version is that over the years ... A: A long story? There always is. Here's what's going on with your "friend": his "window of ... | |
| crazed blog | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: .. I looked at his facebook and myspace and friendster accounts... and I looked at his notes and his ... A: I would never presume to diagnose someone from a description written by someone else. I don't know ... | |
| crazed blog | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: .. I looked at his facebook and myspace and friendster accounts... and I looked at his notes and his ... A: If you even have to ask me this question, I have to wonder about YOU? OF COURSE NOT! Why would you ... | |
| sexuality...and psychosis? | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, I've noticed something. From dating lots of men, I've found that men who tend to be ... A: I've had some REALLY great questions today and this is another one of them! I'm not sure if smart ... | |
| the one | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: . I like this guy at my job..he is about 12 years older than me (im 25)..I heard about him even ... A: First of all, no, your story is not silly at all. Second of all, no, I'm not going to tell you to ... | |
| I'm confused | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm in high school and I'm ready to date again after my last relationship that ended about a year ... A: You may very well have read him correctly, but too much time has past. This is extremely common ... | |
| How to tell if a guy is really interested? | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: So I went on a date with this guy last Sunday and I thought the date went really well. We really had ... A: First, let's clear this up: yes, he wants to get into your pants. That's not a bad thing however. ... | |
| Totally Confused | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: Since age 20 I have secretly been in love with this man. He approached me, but I ran because I was a ... A: I can only answer questions based on what someone tells me. I think it's a dumb choice to want ... | |
| Totally Confused | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: Since age 20 I have secretly been in love with this man. He approached me, but I ran because I was a ... A: Wow. What a pathetic, tragic waste of time and energy. 30 years? Frankly, it sickens me to think ... | |
| porn and boyfriend | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my boyfriend found out that I like to watch porn, which is unusual for a girl, and that made ... A: As with most things, the answer isn't as simple as just a single thing. There are a number of ... | |
| porn and boyfriend | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: Hey, my boyfriend found out that I like to watch porn, which is unusual for a girl, and that made ... A: Actually, no. It's not unusual at all. Many, MANY women enjoy porn just like guys do. You'd probably ... | |
| Should Single Mothers Date? | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I have to ask. Are you gay??? You seem to have a problem with single mothers which would mean with ... A: Since you've asked this question as part of the public forum, I can either ignore it or answer it. ... | |
| im so tired of catty fucking bitches | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I have an abusive roommate who is really overweight and unattractive, and bitchy. I'm very ... A: You know, I've answered well over 26,000 of these letters from readers/viewers and in only the last ... | |
| coworkers | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm a very successful woman who works for a large PR firm. I have been promoted quite quickly. I ... A: Part of doing well at work is playing the politics. Doing your job well (and to be honest EVERYONE ... | |
| How to get to the dating stage?? | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19 years old and I find it very hard to actually get boyfriends because I'm so shy around them. ... A: Let's get this little fact out in the open first: playing "hard to get" is the dumbest, worst game ... | |
| relationship at work | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, First, I would like to apologize for this long email, and I hope you are able to help me ... A: If you're absolutely sure he knows and is ignoring your request, then it seems he's not interested. ... | |
| relationship at work | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, First, I would like to apologize for this long email, and I hope you are able to help me ... A: This seems to be the day to answer this same question! I've already answered it twice for two other ... | |
| No Question | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to tell you - I love your answers! A: I love that you love my answers! Much love... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Do I have any hope to find Mr. Right? :( | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: okay. I'm in my early thirties, guys hit on me, and I just want to hang out, do things, not have ... A: Don't bother trying "anything" - do the right things instead. Also, don't give yourself a time limit ... | |
| Do I have any hope to find Mr. Right? :( | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: okay. I'm in my early thirties, guys hit on me, and I just want to hang out, do things, not have ... A: Whoa! Where do I begin with you here?? Yes, I agree. If you continue to do what you're doing now, ... | |
| Dick Sucking Lips | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm in grade 8 at my high school and I really like a boy who's in one of ... A: Let me be clear about this: what you hear and the reality of things are quite different! You hear ... | |
| annoyed | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 27 year old woman and I don't have a boyfriend. I have not had too much experience with men ... A: Are you asking me why anyone would do this or why your mother would do this? I don't know your ... | |
| annoyed | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 27 year old woman and I don't have a boyfriend. I have not had too much experience with men ... A: Tell her that her rude put-downs are going to cause her to lose contact with her daughter. You don't ... | |
| Beginning or the end? | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I’ve read few of your answers and even people who asked maybe don’t like them, I think you ... A: "Brutally honest, smart and brave"??? Well at least I'm brutal! Let's see if you still feel that way ... | |
| advice pls.. | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: im 33yrs old seperated woman with 1 five yr old kid, havent been dating anyone since 5yrs now, but ... A: Hey Sandra! You've come full-circle on this. It's these very fears, lack of self-confidence, ... | |
| What does this actually mean? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: Hey! Being 13 years old, you obviously don't realize how incredibly rude you've been by asking a ... | |
| What does this actually mean? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: If it's not important enough for you to write a reasonable summary of your question, it sure as hell ... | |
| What does this actually mean? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: You can't possibly expect me to read all of this - especially considering I have over 50 of these ... | |
| advice pls.. | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: im 33yrs old seperated woman with 1 five yr old kid, havent been dating anyone since 5yrs now, but ... A: You're very welcome. One more piece of advice: AVOID the internet to meet men!!! There are a ton of ... | |
| advice pls.. | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: im 33yrs old seperated woman with 1 five yr old kid, havent been dating anyone since 5yrs now, but ... A: No, I understand what you're asking. You want to know how to create a strong, passionate, worthwhile ... | |
| Have I ruined it or just getting paranoid | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I have now been on three dates with this girl - one lunch and two dinner. Last time I went to an ... A: Yes, do that. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. ... | |
| Grinding With My Crush | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: i'm a girl from texas, i'm 17 years young, and i need advice on whether my crush likes me or not! ... A: Sorry, I never learned how to read minds either! It sounds like there's some attraction there for ... | |
| He confused me with his mix message | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: I have found your web site really interesting about man and woman relationship. So today is my ... A: Move on. You've done so much damage here with all the misdirection and being obtuse that you've lost ... | |
| post traumatic stress | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: About a year ago, I had two roommates. One day, my former roommate screamed at me at the top of her ... A: Hey! What would I have done? I'd laugh at them, right in their face. Then, I'd feel badly about it ... | |
| post traumatic stress | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: About a year ago, I had two roommates. One day, my former roommate screamed at me at the top of her ... A: Oh-Nameless-One! I'm glad it's helping. When you get as far along as you did, sometimes it's a crap ... | |
| post traumatic stress | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: About a year ago, I had two roommates. One day, my former roommate screamed at me at the top of her ... A: This story sounds familiar. Did you write to me before about this? If not, my apologies. Either way, ... | |
| Lonely | 12/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a 30-year-old single mother of 2 amazing children. I have a college degree, a good, stable job ... A: You have a couple of things working against you here. Unfortunately, the first is your kids. The ... | |
| prude | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: Is being prude, unexperienced (didn't even have my first kiss yet)and not flirtatious a huge turn ... A: It depends. Which guy? Where? When? Yes, for some guys it's a turn off and for others it's not. It ... | |
| Anxious | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: I m attempting something makes me anticipate excitement but something I am awfully anxious and ... A: Hey! You're sure quick to let your own judgments of this guy become your reality! Why would you ... | |
| will he marry me | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I guess my situation is common but let me ask what you think any way. i am a 42 yr old women that ... A: Oh! That changes everything! No WONDER he won't marry you, you're a bitch! I think it's time to ... | |
| will he marry me | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: I guess my situation is common but let me ask what you think any way. i am a 42 yr old women that ... A: Oh my god Michele! You've wanted to be married for all of these 4 years and you still aren't? What ... | |
| i like him but i said no earlyer before i liked guys | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: i realy like this guy at school and in fifth grade he said he liked me but i said i didn't but now i ... A: This is a very good lesson for you so that you'll never do this again. This would be a good time to ... | |
| sex... holy shit. | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: So, I have reread this message several times and I have come to the conclusion that I have ... A: I don't know what message you're referring to and I don't know who "Beth" is. Are you sure you're ... | |
| Anxious | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I m attempting something makes me anticipate excitement but something I am awfully anxious and ... A: Yes you did get personal attention. Feels all warm and fuzzy, huh?? Sorry, I didn't get that about ... | |
| Anxious | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: I m attempting something makes me anticipate excitement but something I am awfully anxious and ... A: Late 20's is "pretty old"??? How DARE YOU!!! ;) My mother was also small - about 4' 10" but ... | |
| hello | 11/30/2008 |
| Q: i have a question. I am 19 a sophmore in college, and am afraid of when meeting guys cause i don't ... A: Your self-image has a lot to do with how others react to you, so in that way, yes. Not having a lot ... | |
| double standards .with the ugly girls paying the price of cold hard souldless rejection | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: question is why guys are such assholes,for girls like me who like ugly betty ,and i know ugly betty ... A: Louise, I've told you many times you need help. Stop writing to me under ANY name or I'm going to ... | |
| man of my dreams | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: "I am 24 year old young woman.I generally had some fiasco relationships and most of the time boys ... A: I'm sorry to hear about this story, and your general problems in finding a good guy. However, not ... | |
| Want to fix things | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: I hope you can help me. My problem is a bit complicated. I have been going out with this guy for ... A: Sorry for the late answer - my internet connection is down! :( First of all, I don't believe in ... | |
| rejection | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: so how is when i like i get rejected . but when he likes a girls he doesn,t get rejected ? it ... A: I have absolutely no idea what you're asking me here. If you want a clear answer, you're going to ... | |
| Should I try to date my manager? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I started working at a new place a few months ago and I'm totally head over heels for my manager. I ... A: Do it! I don't agree that you shouldn't date someone you work with. You just need to be realistic ... | |
| finding a guy to date | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I met a guy on the job two months ago that interested me. He is very attractive, well spoken and ... A: You keep writing to me and then doing whatever you want so I hope you've responded to his text. If ... | |
| geuine | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: why is it impossible to find why genuine,sinerce,qiuet,sweet guy . guy.who isn,t cold hearted ... A: You couldn't be more wrong. Here in the REAL world that isn't the case at all. You MAKE your own ... | |
| finding a guy to date | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I met a guy on the job two months ago that interested me. He is very attractive, well spoken and ... A: Wow, where do I begin with you? If there's a mistake to be made, you're making it! If you and he ... | |
| finding a guy to date | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: I met a guy on the job two months ago that interested me. He is very attractive, well spoken and ... A: GOOD ON YOU, Rina!! I'm very proud of you for taking that step to call him. Now, on to the mistakes ... | |
| help please quick part 2 | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: well the class i am no body knew him but me and he started talking at the start of the course now he ... A: Sorry, but if you want me to know what we've talked about in the past you HAVE to copy the previous ... | |
| help please quick | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: i was woundering how do i get nerdy type intersted in me and i am making fun of them.i like this ... A: Don't be so sure that this guy has a bikini-clad beauty waiting in the wings. Trust me, I talk to ... | |
| The | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I am a 30 year old single mom of 2. My children's father and I have been separated for over 6 years. ... A: Yes, I'm saying that in a way. The "master list" isn't so much a set of hard-and-fast rules by ... | |
| The "List" | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: I am a 30 year old single mom of 2. My children's father and I have been separated for over 6 years. ... A: If I knew you I could tell whether these things are "reasonable" or not for you. I have some ... | |
| not appealing | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: i am 27 yaers old.and how do i get a boyfreinds.any guy i likes doesn,t facny me and i don,t wnat to ... A: You've asked me this question untold numbers of times and I've answered it. The problem is that you ... | |
| looks | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: i was woundering can girls who are fat and unattractive looking get a boyfreinds ,and is there any ... A: Yes, girls that are fat and unattractive can get boyfriends. However, why are you fat and ... | |
| short | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: i got question do guys hate short girls.when i am around a tall guy of 5ft 7" he doesn,t want to be ... A: No. Men don't hate short women. Everybody has preferences and some men prefer tall women and some ... | |
| 3 Eager Fiance's = 1 Big Problem | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: Let me start off by saying that it wasn't my intention for this quandry to happen. I've gone from a ... A: This is one of those cases where you're going to really hate my injecting reality and are likely ... | |
| I fell in love with a man I had one night stand with | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: Well, I know this might sound really stupid and crazy...But I really need your help! I would like to ... A: Hey Lynn! No, you're not annoying. Actually "irritating" is more like it! ;) Why, oh why do you ... | |
| I fell in love with a man I had one night stand with | 8/10/2008 |
| Q: Well, I know this might sound really stupid and crazy...But I really need your help! I would like to ... A: Yes, I caught that mistake (he canceled the date) after I sent you the message, but the message was ... | |
| I fell in love with a man I had one night stand with | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: Well, I know this might sound really stupid and crazy...But I really need your help! I would like to ... A: Holy shit Lynn! Why in THE HELL would you actually try to create what you didn't want to have happen ... | |
| College | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: I am 18 and about to leave for college. I am super excited to meet tons of new people and in ... A: Wow! So many questions! Ok, let's jump into this: First of all, college IS going to be a completely ... | |
| Douchebag! | 7/26/2008 |
| Q: hes the hottest guy in our town. Tall, super huge muscles, bangin' body, nice clothes, nice Porsche ... A: Yes, absolutely I'm saying that he's not. Trust me on this. If your description of him is accurate, ... | |
| Douchebag! | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: hes the hottest guy in our town. Tall, super huge muscles, bangin' body, nice clothes, nice Porsche ... A: Your impression of him is far different from the reality - trust me. He can't be this big a ... | |
| intelligence and gender | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: are women less intelligent than men? My mom says men have higher IQs. she says guys are smarter. ... A: Maybe men have higher IQ's than your mom! Here's the reality: Men are far better at being men than ... | |
| When is it too late for sex? When is it too early? | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: when is too soon to have sex with a man? im not talking about one night stands or hookups or flings ... A: Too early: when you're not ready. Too late: when he loses the ability to connect emotionally. It's ... | |
| how to keep my man | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: my names Anna.i have a difficult situation with my man and i need your help much! this is the ... A: It took me awhile to understand that "smth" means "something" - that's a very odd abbreviation ... | |
| willing to wait | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a 36 year old woman and I'm dating a 29 year old man. When we were first dating he was still a ... A: No, there's no issue with your ages. It's only 7 years! Frankly, I'm more concerned that he hasn't ... | |
| willing to wait | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: I am a 36 year old woman and I'm dating a 29 year old man. When we were first dating he was still a ... A: You bet! People DO expect fireworks in bed because that's all you hear about. When someone lacks ... | |
| asking a man out | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: !! Is there a successful way to ask a man out on a date? It seems that I'm not doing it correctly. ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you for doing the asking. Many women just won't make that move and ... | |
| Winning him over | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: 22f, single all my life, 200 pds. I had a brain tumour removed and have poor social skills. I want ... A: First of all, congratulations on losing the weight and getting to work on yourself and your skills. ... | |
| dating unpredictable man | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a half. We live 4 hours apart, and spend ... A: Hey Jerrie! Yes, I'm from the SouthWest (Los Angeles) so I'm pretty up on my cowboy (cowgirl?) ... | |
| dating unpredictable man | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a half. We live 4 hours apart, and spend ... A: Hey Jerrie! The system doesn't let me respond to your rating comments so I wanted to do so here. ... | |
| dating unpredictable man | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a half. We live 4 hours apart, and spend ... A: Yes, I think you've told me everything except for one thing: you didn't bother asking me any ... | |
| stunning looks dont necessarily equal love | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: hey i notice something. a lot of drop dead. gorgeous beautiful women have a really rough time dating ... A: There are a number of causes for it. First of all, men rarely approach these beauties. Most men ... | |
| Shy guy meets Shy girl | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: There is a guy at church who I think likes me but he is shy. One day he walked up to me and gave me ... A: He doesn't sound shy, he sounds inexperienced - VERY inexperienced! So, what are you going to do? ... | |
| sex too soon? | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: Dennis Neder. I was wondering when is it too soon to have sex with a guy? Cuz one of my friends ... A: How rare and how unsophisticated. Is this a real scenario? Frankly, it stinks like last weeks ... | |
| questions | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: Dennis. You know how a great sex life keeps a married couple together. Ok I was wondering, in ... A: Sure, even a broken clock is right twice a day! In fact, it's reasonably rare that couples with a ... | |
| oops | 7/6/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, This is kinda embarassing. Ok I really like a guy at school. So the other day him and ... A: Maybe it's your breath. Obviously, I don't know you so I can't say why men don't approach you. On ... | |
| oops | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, This is kinda embarassing. Ok I really like a guy at school. So the other day him and ... A: Haven't I answered this exact same question for you a number of times before this? What, you didn't ... | |
| Are there any good ones left? | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: I am a single mother of two; a fourteen year old autistic boy and a charming four year. I am 31 ... A: A woman I know does a seminar on how women can meet wealthy professionals. She opens her seminar by ... | |
| shy crush | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: There's this guy at work (I'm 18, he's 21) that I like very much. The only problem is that he's ... A: "Stalkerish"??? Trust me, you're not going to look like a stalker, but you'd better do something or ... | |
| roomates | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I have 2 female roomates. I'm tall, skinny, and pretty. They are short, fat, and ugly. ... A: Oh, I'm sure it's because you're the most gorgeous, beautiful, witty, interesting, funny, ... | |
| blowing a load | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: I wanna meet girls so I can blow my huge wad of cum all over their faces. How can I do this? ... A: If you want to date normal, healthy, clinically sane women, you have to BE normal, healthy and ... | |
| blowing a load | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: I wanna meet girls so I can blow my huge wad of cum all over their faces. How can I do this? A: Get into the porn business. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| roomates | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: Hey, I have 2 female roomates. I'm tall, skinny, and pretty. They are short, fat, and ugly. ... A: I'd just say, "They may be small, but they're attached to someone spectacular. Can yours say that?" ... | |
| agendas | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: What are common agendas for men in the dating world, and what are common agendas for women in the ... A: I'm sorry, but my agenda doesn't allow me to divulge that information. Well, ok... People don't ... | |
| OLDER MEN | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: I am a 59-yr-old female with limited relationship experience due to being a caregiver for my mother. ... A: No, I wouldn't say it's "common behavior" for any man - older or younger. It's apparent he has an ... | |
| long term | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: is it really that hard for a woman to get a man and then keep a man, marriage etc? why is it that ... A: No, it's not really that hard, but the reality is that women do a lot of harm to their own causes by ... | |
| dating | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: 1. Why is it that really beautiful women with nice personalities and successful careers ... seem to ... A: Mike! Yes, this is how you combine two questions into one. I've already answered them both. I hope ... | |
| looks | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: mr why is it only the good looking pepole find love . just let say the likes jensen ackles always ... A: Louise, I've answered this for you before. It's your attitude, not your aptitude that determines ... | |
| i'm ashamed | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: What do i do?There's this boy in my school that is super attractive but whenever i get near him and ... A: Don't worry - a lot of people feel this way. It's purely nervous energy and isn't that difficult to ... | |
| The Girl who's wanted | 6/17/2008 |
| Q: My name is Kristi and I am 20 years old. I turn 21 at the end of the year. I have moved into a ... A: First of all, I'm not sure you have the right goals in mind. What you're asking for is to be the ... | |
| guy | 6/17/2008 |
| Q: I like this guy, he is one of those really hot guys that eveyr girl likes and he knows it and he ... A: I wouldn't say you shouldn't bother with him, but your comment definitely caught him off guard. ... | |
| the man I desire | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: There is a guy at our graduate school who is absolutely gorgeous. He is the "big man on campus" and ... A: Didn't I answer this exactly question for you before??? If you're hoping my answer will change, ... | |
| dating | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I am 40 years old and going to be 41 soon. I ... A: Hey SK! When a man is interested in a woman, he's usually falling all over himself to get with her. ... | |
| dating | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I am 40 years old and going to be 41 soon. I ... A: The signs? Well, let me make this easy for you: ALL guys want to get into your panties. Don't be ... | |
| dating | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I am 40 years old and going to be 41 soon. I ... A: You have a couple of obvious problems here. First of all, you seem to be holding out and only ... | |
| roommates | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and I have 2 roommates, one is 22 and the other 24. Back in February they both ... A: You didn't clean the apartment for 4 weeks??? With 3 girls living in the same place???? Holy shit! ... | |
| beauty and resentment | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: I'm a slim, trim, beautiful woman. I have noticed that all the fat, ugly girls at school really hate ... A: Really? You're all that are you? Do you think that the issue might not be your looks, but your ... | |
| new wife | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old, never married. My current boyfriend is 26 years old also and he left his wife and ... A: There's nothing to say that he won't leave you for someone else - or that he will either. This is a ... | |
| Dating in 2008 | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: I have noticed lately that when I meet a man, I have to do all the work. Such as asking him for his ... A: What in the hell are you doing hinting about this in the first place? If you don't want to see him - ... | |
| Dating in 2008 | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: I have noticed lately that when I meet a man, I have to do all the work. Such as asking him for his ... A: I know, I know. This isn't your job, but you feel like you have to be both the man AND the woman ... | |
| advice | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: I'm a married woman with a daughter, and I play bass guitar in a rock band. We have gotten a record ... A: First off all, congratulations on the record deal! Think about this: you're only one in perhaps ... | |
| re | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: I met a man who I think is very handsome and a very hardworking, good guy who was in the army for ... A: Hey Julie! You're asking me to read this guys mind and tell you what everything means. Julie, not ... | |
| re | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: I met a man who I think is very handsome and a very hardworking, good guy who was in the army for ... A: Yo! Julie! Uh, sorry. I didn't pick that up. The repercussions are that he may decide to go back ... | |
| attraction | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: i ask a woman on the attarction of men she said men are attacted to bithces who are good looking ... A: Bad advice. I'm a man and I specifically avoid bitches. I don't care how they look. Likewise I avoid ... | |
| popular | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: how is one guy is popular with all the girls and he not even goodlooking and bit snobby ... A: I've answered this for you before. You change your attitude in all the ways I've told you. Louise, ... | |
| How do I let him know I'm interested? | 5/18/2008 |
| Q: I'm in year 12 at school and there's a guy in my class whom I really like, but I don't know how to ... A: I'm glad it helped. Why are you so worried what anyone else thinks or knows? This is none of their ... | |
| How do I let him know I'm interested? | 5/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm in year 12 at school and there's a guy in my class whom I really like, but I don't know how to ... A: First of all, I'm very, very proud of you for wanting to approach this guy. So many girls just wait ... | |
| kissing | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: is kissing instnt or does it have to be learned?because i don,t know i am up set thet i don,t know ... A: No, kissing isn't instinctual at all. It's something you learn through practice. The good news ... | |
| how do I talk to him | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: So...about 2 years ago I went to my best friend's house for her birthday. (At this time I had been ... A: No, I'm not going to confirm that at all. Contacting him may be the only way you'll ever see him ... | |
| Sex | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: Why is sex so important to a marriage and/or other types of relationships? What is it about the ... A: Hey Rita! Ok. Yes, in fact there are many things you can do. It begins with the approach. Men are ... | |
| Sex | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: Why is sex so important to a marriage and/or other types of relationships? What is it about the ... A: That depends. Is this someone you're already dating or something that you want to date. Also, how ... | |
| Sex | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: Why is sex so important to a marriage and/or other types of relationships? What is it about the ... A: Yo! Rita! In fact, the mistaken belief held by most people is that men break up families. In ... | |
| red flags | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: What are some warning signals that could signify a dangerous man? Such as, when a woman like me is ... A: Hey Rita! You hit the nail on the head - "regular sex". The reality is that a bad marriage will ... | |
| red flags | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: What are some warning signals that could signify a dangerous man? Such as, when a woman like me is ... A: Either she knew what she wanted, or she just couldn't make up her mind and finally settled, or she ... | |
| red flags | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: What are some warning signals that could signify a dangerous man? Such as, when a woman like me is ... A: Yes, I know how men are - and women too! Here's the real issue: why are you so terrified of men? ... | |
| left out and unloved | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: i know there is a lot of girls my age who had loads of boyfreinds all accept me.i know there is a ... A: No, guys want to kiss girls that they are interested in - not "stunning" women only. Your job is to ... | |
| What should I do now ?? | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: -) !!!! Here is my ques: I m in collge and there is this guy who is my junior... I think he sort of ... A: What's your next move? Go find someone else that you CAN have a relationship with. You blew this ... | |
| attractiveness and sexual desire | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: Why is it that very attractive men tend to be very sexual as well? Like all the gorgeous don juan ... A: What makes you think you're an emotional or that you give off a physical "vibe"? This particular ... | |
| attractiveness and sexual desire | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: Why is it that very attractive men tend to be very sexual as well? Like all the gorgeous don juan ... A: This relates directly to the type of communication system the use. This is a little complicated, ... | |
| shoud I flirt? | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: I am an attractive and confident woman. I have dated many handsome and rich men, but I have not ... A: No, you're not playing cool - you're playing cold - maybe even frozen! I have to say, you sure put a ... | |
| men and women | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Neder. They say when a guy meets a girl, within 5-10 minutes of meeting her, he can tell ... A: Probably the #1 thing is whether she's a game-player or not. Game players are for sex only, women ... | |
| What to do? | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: Background info: We dated about 7 years ago, although we loved each other i knew his reputation as a ... A: You're asking me to tell you what you want and frankly, you already know what you want. If you ... | |
| follow up | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: ------------------------ Hello Joanna! Frankly, what does it really matter? No, I don't think this ... A: Yo! Jo! There's never a perfect situation for relationships. You have to take the hand you have and ... | |
| follow up | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: ------------------------ Hello Joanna! Frankly, what does it really matter? No, I don't think this ... A: Hey Joanna! First of all, what exactly do you want here? You're all over the place. Let's face it, ... | |
| follow up | 4/18/2008 |
| Q: ------------------------ Hello Joanna! Frankly, what does it really matter? No, I don't think this ... A: First of all, you may be giving him a ton of credit he doesn't deserve. I can't tell you how many ... | |
| ?????? | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: I've called my dream guy twice tonight,he has not return my call should i call or not? I want to but ... A: Is there more to this story that I don't know about? I don't know anything about what has transpired ... | |
| how to overcome shyness | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: i was woundering how do i overcome shyness with guys becasue i can,t talk to them .if a guy ask to ... A: This is far more than just a shyness problem. You have some aversion to being approached, and that ... | |
| passionate | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: Is there any way to turn this relationship into a real relationship instead of a hooking up for sex ... A: Why are you worried about this in the first place? I'm sure I mentioned this but this is one of the ... | |
| passionate | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: Is there any way to turn this relationship into a real relationship instead of a hooking up for sex ... A: Since I don't know the details of the situation - and I can't possibly remember them considering how ... | |
| how can i get him to ask me out? | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: ok, there is this boy in my block .. he talks to me and everythin n some times he wants to kiss me ... A: Wait a minute Paola...I'm getting a vision of your future...yes, it's coming...wait a minute...ok ... | |
| getting my guy. | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: my name is katie and im in highschool. im a freshmen soon to be sophomore and this special guy is a ... A: I'm in the reality business Katie, and the reality is this: how are you ever going to work any charm ... | |
| How interested is he really? | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 42 female, I've been dating a man for 5 months now. He has custody of his children so we only ... A: Isn't this one obvious? Yes, he's only interested in a sexual relationship and maybe a buddy to do a ... | |
| I have met someone but don't know what to do about it.... | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: I recently met someone at a party. I have met him once before, 2 years ago but I was in a ... A: Frankly, I think you're way ahead of yourself. You met this guy once and maybe you've talked to him ... | |
| jelly | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: do you advice you way back last you problem don,t? i sort of took it,i am going to counsllor to help ... A: Huh??? That's not even a real sentence! I'm glad you're getting some help. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| I NEED ERGENT HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: i wonder if u can answer my question. Well, my story is dat there's this blond girl (popular) who ... A: Go spend some time with him and get to know him already! You don't have to "attract him". Just be ... | |
| follow up | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: Hey, This man asked me out. We're both 27 and in the same career but I'm in a higher position than ... A: Frankly, I think you're asking the wrong questions here. First of all, you seem to be picking men ... | |
| dating | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: Hey, This man asked me out. We're both 27 and in the same career but I'm in a higher position than ... A: I read some of these things from women and just shake my head in disbelief. You think you're going ... | |
| dating | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: Hey, This man asked me out. We're both 27 and in the same career but I'm in a higher position than ... A: Like any other! Your sexual experience has nothing to do with how the relationship is "structured" ... | |
| a guy issue | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: well, you see... i have this guy that i like and i don't know if he knows i am there. i talked to ... A: Yes, I can help you. I'll even give you three different options: 1) Go invite him out yourself. ... | |
| long distance | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: I like this guy at school, we get along great, have a lot in common, similar interests in music, ... A: There are a number of issues involved here. First of all, how long do you have at school together? ... | |
| Rejection | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: What is the best way to deal with rejection (in all forms and scales) when interacting with women? I ... A: [chuckle] - that cruise missle thing is a real deal breaker. I recommend that all guys start at the ... | |
| Rejection | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: What is the best way to deal with rejection (in all forms and scales) when interacting with women? I ... A: In any battle, I always recommend that you begin with superior firepower. If she brings a slingshot, ... | |
| dating hell | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating the same guy on and off for 3 years. And I think its about time for a change ... A: There are a number of problems going on here. Let me try to deal with each one of them. Regarding ... | |
| Love lost | 2/7/2008 |
| Q: I dated a man for two years, and happened to lose my virginity to him and he lost it to me. We broke ... A: If you really want to get him back you need two things: First, some distance in order for him to ... | |
| Are there some men that never initiate? | 2/4/2008 |
| Q: I've been flirting with this guy for a few months and I can tell when a guy is interested and when ... A: First of all, dating isn't about guarrantees. You have to take your risks just like everyone else! ... | |
| What to do with this man? | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I've recently decided that I'd be interested in going out with a man who works with the same charity ... A: Interestingly, the number of men that don't like being asked out on a date by a woman is dwindling. ... | |
| Stop the situation from escalating? | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: There is this guy at my grad school named Mo that I've met once or twice and just thought he was a ... A: Regardless of whether you feel obligated or not for him helping you, this is way out of hand. ... | |
| Help please, i need some good advice! | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I've been eyeing on this one guy who was in one of my class in the first semester. ... A: I don't know what he wants since I don't read minds. All I can tell you is to repeat what he's said. ... | |
| I'm fallin in love with a guy at work who has a girlfriend | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: Five months ago a new guy was employed at my workplace, and at the very first sight I liked him. At ... A: You didn't mention how long this has been going on and that makes a different - maybe a big ... | |
| What to do | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I am an attractive 23 year old female who just graduated from college as a Registered Nurse. I just ... A: You're going to have to get to know him better before you really know what he's all about. Obviously ... | |
| HELP!!! | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: Ok,first of all, I want to attract the woman of my dreams, not a man. I could'nt find the other ... A: Huh? Ok, you're a heterosexual. That's mostly what we deal with here, so you're in the right place. ... | |
| What could I do to change my luck with men from within myself and a mystery man | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: I have this strange man whom I spent loving immensely this year and now with a new year I want to ... A: a. I don't know if he's gay. He may be. I don't know if he's a player. He may be. I don't know if ... | |
| Longtime Crush | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: Neder, Some people have trouble finding the man of their dreams, but I am one of the lucky few that ... A: The one thing you didn't mention is whether you and he are local enough to have a relationship in ... | |
| reading | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: Two questions here. 1. Is finding the right one just all about ups and downs, and you shouldn't ... A: No, I don't believe in the statement "what goes around, comes around." This is just hopeful/wishful ... | |
| reject | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: do you know what it likes to be rejected .i suppose you don,t but i do.and pain and rehection and ... A: Louise: Yes, I know rejection exceedingly well. That's why I decided to learn how to end it. ... | |
| reading | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: Two questions here. 1. Is finding the right one just all about ups and downs, and you shouldn't ... A: 1) Well, you SHOULDN'T take rejection personally, but sometimes that's pretty hard to do. Yes, ... | |
| doctorate | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: Dennis, This isn't a relationship question but you have a doctorate so maybe you could help me. I ... A: This is something I've actually done many times - reinvent yourself. That's not just a flip answer ... | |
| relationship | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: Neder, I have 3 questions! ---------- question one: I recently have become romantically attracted ... A: I have 3 answers! Sure hope their to your questions! ---------- 1) This is a difficult question to ... | |
| follow up | 12/13/2007 |
| Q: Here are the videos I wanted you to watch the other day. What do you think about what he is saying? ... A: I think Chris Rock needs to write to me if he has this many problems with women. Best regards... ... | |
| men | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: i was woundering how do i get guys to take me seiously and be intersted in me.i am always getting ... A: Hey Louise! You want me to do therapy with you via these messages and I can't do that. Go find ... | |
| men | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: i was woundering how do i get guys to take me seiously and be intersted in me.i am always getting ... A: You've actually already asked me this question about a thousand times and I've answered it just as ... | |
| marriage | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old woman currently in my last year of medical school, will be getting my M.D. this ... A: First off, congratulations on your MD. That's a very long road! I always love it when someone tells ... | |
| older men | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 25 year old female who loves all types of music (although I'm not going into music, I'm ... A: 1. I don't know him. I don't know if he's wise or not. 2. No. Many smart women do foolish things ... | |
| older men | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 25 year old female who loves all types of music (although I'm not going into music, I'm ... A: You seem to equate being single with failure. They are totally unrelated. Further, how do you know ... | |
| help | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: Hey Louise! Nothing you've said here is correct. You've just created all of these beliefs about ... A: Yo! Louise! Just like I said. You've totally ignored everything I've said. You're wasting both of ... | |
| help | 11/23/2007 |
| Q: you said you tell me like how about getting to know a guy with out feeling that i am not good ... A: Hey Louise! Nothing you've said here is correct. You've just created all of these beliefs about ... | |
| help | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: you said you tell me like how about getting to know a guy with out feeling that i am not good ... A: Ok, so what have you accomplished of the things I've recommended? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| help | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: you said you tell me like how about getting to know a guy with out feeling that i am not good ... A: Since you didn't copy the pervious message, I have no idea what you're talking about. I'm sorry ... | |
| how do I know if he is serious about me?! | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy 3 yrs ago for about 2 months, and he got scare with us getting closed ... A: What exactly are you looking for? The absolute, sure deal? Valen, forget it. There's no such thing ... | |
| He's shy | 11/18/2007 |
| Q: You may be able to help me out... maybe not, but I figure I'll just ask it anyway. There’s this guy ... A: Since you both seem to be able to talk on FaceBook, use that to transition into real life. Write to ... | |
| help | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: so how does a guy know if a guy is desperate or not.and how does a guy know a girl likes him. YOU ... A: First things first. Without them, there IS no next step. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| help | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: so how does a guy know if a guy is desperate or not.and how does a guy know a girl likes him. YOU ... A: You're "not what they're looking for"? How do they know that if they don't get to know you? Answer: ... | |
| help | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: so how does a guy know if a guy is desperate or not.and how does a guy know a girl likes him. YOU ... A: Yo! Louise! My questions were in one of the previous messages. Since you didn't bother to copy it I ... | |
| I am very sad | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: My husband whom I adored left me for another woman after he got her pregnant not too long ago and ... A: Yes, you should definitely see a professional right away. This sort of deep, foundational malaise ... | |
| men | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: i have a few problems .i am 26 years old i have never had a boyfreind i know that sound pathetic but ... A: Hey Louise! Please answer my questions. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I need you help. I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's ... A: Yes, you're right - I misunderstood, and no, it's not your fault because you started with sex. For ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I need you help. I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's ... A: What makes you think that movies and going out to dinner aren't real dates? I mean, what does it ... | |
| question | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: My parents are immigrants in the US but I grew up in america so I'm pretty much americanized. I know ... A: Well, this isn't a relationship question, but I'll tackle it anyway. I believe your mother is ... | |
| follow up | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: What are the types of men I should be going for then? -------------------------Hi Dennis, What are ... A: Yo! Leanne! Well, that's really the question then, it's it? If you don't know exactly what you're ... | |
| career and relationships | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 28 year old woman and am getting my M.D. and plan on going into a surgical residency to become ... A: Then I suggest you stop listening to "everyone". First of all, I didn't say to start dating surgeons ... | |
| career and relationships | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 28 year old woman and am getting my M.D. and plan on going into a surgical residency to become ... A: Believe it or not, the best guy for you is another busy person! The reason for this is that busy ... | |
| relationships with men | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: What are some things women can do to make a man happy? (Assuming this is a man that genuinely loves ... A: Hey Leanne! I don't think it's about whom you are attracted to as much as whom you EXPECT you'll be ... | |
| hi | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: hi im a 21m love with a girl 20i proposed to her at first meet she replyed me with negative answer ... A: She doesn't see you as a potential partner, she sees you as some horny guy that's in a hurry! You ... | |
| relationships with men | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: What are some things women can do to make a man happy? (Assuming this is a man that genuinely loves ... A: Seeking information is the first step! I can't speak about their particular situation, but I'll say ... | |
| relationships with men | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: What are some things women can do to make a man happy? (Assuming this is a man that genuinely loves ... A: First of all, you're making a huge mistake thinking that celebrities reflect reality in any way, ... | |
| boy at ..... | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: a boy at school who i fancy but hes a total geek but really funny ma sis said don't go out with him. ... A: Go out with him! Your sister is a different person than you are and just because isn't attracted to ... | |
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